DEAR DEIDRE: A drunken night with my friend led to an unexpected threesome – and now I’m confused about my sexuality.
I’ve never been attracted to another woman in my life, but now I’ve discovered that I like having sex with women just as much as I do with men.
I am 31 years old and my friend is 30 years old. We met through work. Her boyfriend is 29 years old.
We were all at a party last weekend when I was too drunk to drive home.
My friend said that I can spend the night at her place because she lives nearby.
So I went back to her apartment with the two of them.
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We continued drinking there.
The conversation turned to sex and pornography, and we all watched some adult movies together.
Then my friend’s boyfriend started saying that it was his fantasy to see his girlfriend and another woman together. He said he didn’t even want to touch – just watch.
I was a little surprised when my friend asked me if I wanted to be that woman.
I think it was because of the drink – but I agreed.
We all started kissing and then, true to his word, her boyfriend sat down while me and my friend continued.
I’ve never done anything like this before.
To my surprise, I really enjoyed it.
The next morning it was a little awkward, but we all laughed it off and said it would stay between us.
But now my friend sent a message saying that her boyfriend would like to do the show again.
I’m tempted because it turns me on so much, but I don’t know if I should agree. If I say yes, does that mean I’m gay or bisexual?
DEIDRE SAYS: Enjoying the physical sensation of sex with a woman doesn’t necessarily mean you’re gay or even bisexual.
Many people like to experiment with different types of sex.
Sometimes it’s the act that makes it enjoyable, not the person involved.
Doing something new and “taboo” also makes you very excited.
It is not always useful to label yourself. Sexuality can be fluid and there are few people who are 100 percent straight or 100 percent gay.
If the thought of doing it again makes you uncomfortable, why not say thanks but no thanks and make it a one time experience.
My support packages for threesome and bisexual questions can help you think through the issues you’re facing.
For advice from someone who will understand, contact Switchboard LGBT+ (switchboard.lgbt, 0800 0119 100).
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