DEAR DEIDRE: I BEGAN a lesbian affair after a romantic getaway with my boyfriend went wrong when he became violent.
I am 22 years old, my boyfriend is 23 years old and we have been together for 20 months.
Last year we went for a weekend — our first trip as a couple — and everything went perfectly, it was a lot of fun.
But towards the end of our second night, we had a big argument about something stupid and he punched me in the stomach on the way back to the hotel.
It was completely out of character and I was shocked
He apologized as soon as he did, but I was so upset that I went back to town while he went to his hotel room.
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I wanted to calm down so I went to a bar for a drink and talked to this brilliant girl.
She sat and listened to me all evening and really seemed to understand me.
We talked and drank all night. She suggested I stay in her hotel room.
As soon as her bedroom door closed, we were in each other’s arms and kissing. I liked the feeling and didn’t back down.
We fell into her bed and had the most amazing sex. I didn’t want the night to end.
My boyfriend didn’t hit me anymore, but things definitely seem to have changed between us.
This woman and I have met several times since I returned home and correspond constantly.
She is 26 years old and this is my first gay relationship.
I’m always so excited to see her and our sex life gets better every time we see each other.
She keeps her cards very close to her chest and hasn’t said how she feels about me, but I think I’m falling in love.
However, I don’t want to leave my boyfriend for something I’m not sure about.
DEIDRE SAYS: No wonder you doubt your boyfriend after he hits you.
If you don’t feel safe with him, it’s only natural to want some kind of distraction, and an affair will, of course, provide just that.
But make sure you get the support you need to deal with his violence and make a decision about your relationship with him before you become even more deeply attached to this woman.
A new, same-sex affair will be exciting, but ultimately it’s a distraction from the problems in your relationship that you shouldn’t ignore.
Please contact Women’s Aid (womensaid.org.uk) for support.
Don’t stay with your boyfriend just because you don’t think you have a better option.
Only stay with him if he gets help for his aggression and if you decide he is the right partner for you.
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