DEAR DEIDRE: Our dream vacation was ruined by my party-loving boyfriend.
He left me raging in our luxury suite to get high and have sex with another woman.
I knew he had an addictive personality and thought he was doing drugs and drinking a lot, which was bad enough.
But then I discovered that he was also unfaithful.
Devastated, I cut my vacation short and returned home. He stayed, but now he begs for forgiveness and wants to see me. But I’m not ready.
We are both 28 years old and have been together for two years. This was the second chance I gave him.
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The first time he let me down was also on vacation.
We had a week in Tenerife, but I hardly saw him because he was drinking a lot and doing drugs.
I wanted to see the island, but it didn’t emerge until early afternoon.
We booked some trips, but I went alone because he wasn’t able to join me.
He apologized, saying he was caught up in the holiday spirit and was relaxing after a stressful time at work.
I forgave him and over time we started saving for a vacation in Vietnam, somewhere I’ve always wanted to go.
I was so excited. We managed to stay with another couple in the same hotel and one evening the four of us went out together.
When my boyfriend got really wild, I decided I’d had enough and went back alone.
He did not return that evening, and at breakfast I learned from this couple that he had assaulted another woman.
I was horrified. Now he says that it was all my fault.
DEIDRE SAYS: By blaming you, your boyfriend is drawing attention away from himself. He doesn’t face his behavior.
Everyone makes mistakes, but you’ve already given him a chance, and his actions show he’s not ready to face his bad choices.
I would be concerned if he would forgive him again, when he has done little to convince you that he recognizes this unhealthy pattern or is willing to overcome it.
He will not change without professional help and you are better off without him. Your heart is broken, but it will mend.
Allow yourself time to heal. My Mend Your Broken Heart support package will help you find someone worthy of your trust.
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