DEAR DEIDRE: MY lack of self-control got me in trouble after I had sex with my girlfriend’s neighbor.
Willpower has never been my strong point and I gave in to temptation at another neighbor’s barbecue.
It was a really hot day and beer and wine were going to my head.
Unfortunately, my girlfriend had to go to work early — she is a waitress at a very nice restaurant.
I’m 22 and she’s 23. When we first met, I felt like I won the lottery.
She is very kind and loyal and we have the best conversations together.
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But this neighbor is 24 years old and a personal trainer, and I admire her confidence.
She is absolutely stunning and I couldn’t believe my luck when she started flirting with me as soon as my girlfriend left.
We drank a bottle of white wine together, and then she suggested we dance.
She has an amazing body and when we got closer she started rubbing my leg.
I just hope all the other neighbors were as drunk as I was, or one of them will surely tell.
I was so excited that when she suggested we go back to her apartment,
I just remembered to grab my jacket before making a sharp exit.
We had sex and it was amazing – much better than I was used to with my girlfriend.
I woke up the next day feeling guilty, but my girlfriend’s neighbor was unresponsive.
She told me not to lose sleep over it and said it was nothing more than a drunken mistake.
But I think I’m developing feelings for her and I can’t stop fantasizing about having sex with her again. Should I tell my girlfriend?
DEIDRE SAYS: Being completely honest can help you deal with the guilt and sense of impending doom you’re feeling, but it would only make your girlfriend miserable.
If you really feel that someone is going to tell your girlfriend about your behavior, it would be better if she hears it from you first.
Most importantly, ask yourself if your cheating is a one-off that you regret.
Has this made you worry about losing your girlfriend, or is your infidelity a sign that your relationship has run its course?
Decide to either put all your efforts into your relationship with the girl to repair the damage or do the honest thing and let her know you want to move on.
But don’t go anywhere near this neighbor until you’ve made up your mind – you’ve already betrayed your girlfriend, she deserves some attention now.
I’m sending you my Torn Between Two Women support package to help you make a decision.
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Source: HIS Education