DEAR DEIDRE: The whole village is laughing at me after my husband’s indiscreet affair.
This other woman works at a local grocery store, her kids go to the same school as mine, and she brings her cat to the vet where I work.
You can’t escape from it — it’s so painful.
There are reminders of his infidelity on every corner and I am furious that he would do this so close to home—selfish idiot.
I am 41 years old and my husband is 43 years old. We have been together for 15 years and have two boys in elementary school.
I thought we were happy together.
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But one day when I was driving a friend after yoga, I saw my husband’s car at home on a distant street.
I stopped to watch and soon he got out, kissed the half-dressed woman at the door and then got into his car. She is 38 years old and divorced with an eight-year-old daughter.
She has a terrible reputation and is openly predatory towards any man.
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My husband denied everything, but when I told him what I saw, he admitted that he had been seeing her for three months.
I asked him to leave but he refused, saying he was sorry and that I should ignore her.
The neighbors now look at me knowingly, and the other school moms look at me sympathetically. Obviously everyone knows what’s going on.
I want to move and escape from this situation. We’re still together, but I can’t stand being around him. I feel trapped.
DEIDRE SAYS: You have every right to be upset.
He’s trying to dismiss your feelings in hopes that you and he can move on and forget what happened, but if he’s not willing to admit the damage he’s done, you’ll never be able to rebuild trust between you.
You must try to make amends and face your actions. If he can’t do that, your relationship might be over.
Take your time and don’t make rash decisions about moving.
An affair does not have to mean the end of a marriage.
But your husband has given you every reason to feel insecure about your relationship and unless he’s ready to rebuild trust, parting ways may be the best answer.
My Support Package Cheating – Can You Get Over It? will help, as will Tavistock Relationships (0207 380 1960 tavistockrelationships.org).
Categories: Optical Illusion
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