DEAR DEIDRE: MY best friend took me in when my boyfriend left me – and I repaid it by having sex with her husband.
Now I’m in love with him, but he refuses to leave her.
I have known my friend since school. We are both 45 years old, and her husband is 50 years old.
I always thought he was good, but he’s not my physical type.
I met my boyfriend at work and we were planning our wedding when he turned around and said it was over.
Devastated, I drove to my best friend’s house and said I could stay as long as I needed.
I spent the first week sad in her spare bedroom. Then my friend, her husband and I started spending evenings together cooking or watching TV.
The flirting started slowly – he would press his leg against mine on the sofa or let his hand linger when he passed me a drink.
Then my friend went to visit her mother, and he and I were left alone.
We started making dinner and before I knew what was happening, he was pressing me against the fridge and running his hands all over me.
He said he liked me for years but never thought he had a chance.
We had sex on the floor and then went upstairs for more. It was the best sex of my life. He spent hours exploring my body and made me feel beautiful. I couldn’t get enough.
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Soon we grabbed every opportunity to have sex.
Now I’ve moved into my own apartment and he comes by regularly to “help with DIY”. We end up making love all over my apartment.
I’m hooked on him and I want him all to myself. But he refuses to leave my friend, saying she doesn’t deserve to be hurt.
I cry myself to sleep every night because of this man, who I think is my soulmate.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your “soul mate” wouldn’t seduce you in the kitchen while his wife is visiting mom.
This isn’t fate, it’s just a selfish man taking advantage of a vulnerable woman.
He saw that your confidence was shattered, so he lashed out. Now he likes to have two wives on the go.
You know deep down that he won’t leave your friend.
Even if it was, would you want it? He showed that he cannot be trusted.
I imagine you’d spend your entire relationship wondering if he’d start cheating on you.
My support package Your Lover Not Free? will help you break this connection.
Then focus on finding a new man who is open to a relationship. And work on rebuilding your confidence.
Your best friend could be your greatest ally in this next phase of your life, not your rival.
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