DEAR DEIDRE: As if cheating on my girlfriend wasn’t bad enough, I stupidly let another woman film us having sex.
Now my girlfriend saw the video, dumped me and showed it to all her friends – who laugh at the size of my penis!
I am 24 years old and my now ex-girlfriend is 23 years old. We met at university and were together for five years.
Last summer vacation I went abroad. While I was there, I met a woman.
She obviously had a crush on me, but I loved my girlfriend and kept rejecting her.
But one night I drank too much. I ended up at her place again.
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She turned out really wild and wanted to have sex all night, in various positions, using toys. It was a great excitement.
Unfortunately, I agreed to him recording us on the phone. Even more stupidly, I didn’t make sure to wipe it off afterwards.
A week later I flew home and, although I felt guilty, continued with my girlfriend.
I didn’t stay in touch with my ex-lover and blocked her.
I thought my girlfriend would never know.
Fast forward to the present and someone sent my girlfriend a link to an amateur porn site, saying she had to watch a video.
It was a ‘film’ my ex-lover made of our sex that night. She uploaded it.
My heartbroken girlfriend broke up with me immediately.
Worse, all her friends saw it too. Some of them laughed at my penis and technique in bed.
How can I get over this and win my girl back?
DEIDRE SAYS: You didn’t behave well, but no one deserves to be a victim of revenge porn – which is what this is.
However, as happened abroad, whether or not you can take legal action may depend on the laws of the country where this woman lives.
It is wise to take advice from the Revenge Porn Helpline (revengepornhelpline.org.uk, tel: 0345 6000 459) who can also help you cope with the effects of this.
As for your ex-girlfriend, she must be very hurt and embarrassed. I’m sorry to say, now that she’s shown all her friends what you’ve done, she’s unlikely to lose her reputation if she takes you back.
But it’s worth trying to get in touch with her and tell her how you feel. My support package, Cheating, Can You Get Over It?, could help you.
Categories: Optical Illusion
Source: HIS Education