DEAR DEIDRE: I am completely devastated after catching my husband having sex with my best friend.
I went above and beyond to help her after she lost her husband, and this is how she thanked me.
I can’t believe they would do this to me and I’m not sure if there’s any way to come back from it.
I am 40 years old, my husband is 45 years old and we have been married for ten years. We have two little daughters together.
My best friend is 39 years old and we’ve been friends since we met in college.
I felt so terrible for her when she lost her husband to cancer that I did everything in my power to support her, including letting her stay with us until she got back on her feet.
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At the time I thought it was a great idea. I realized that it would be good for her to be around people who care about her.
I began to notice how close she and my husband had become, but I naively assumed it was because of the time we all spent together.
Then one day, when I got home early, I discovered that they had gotten tangled up on the bench and had sex. I felt my heart shatter into a million pieces.
They both fumbled around, trying to explain themselves.
They begged for forgiveness and promised me it would never happen again, but the damage was done.
I made them both go away while I tried to make sense of this grim discovery, but for months I’m still struggling.
I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to get over this.
DEIDRE SAYS: You have been betrayed by the two closest people in your life, and it must be especially painful that your friend, who you supported all along, has repaid you with this fraud.
While it won’t be easy to figure out where to go next, it’s important to take the time to decide if trust can be rebuilt.
Without trust, no relationship or friendship can work.
If you decide you want to work on your marriage, you’ll need to be really honest with your husband and tell him exactly how you feel. And he must explain why he was so disloyal.
Read my support package Cheating, can you get over it? help.
You can also find support through tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1960), which offers affordable counseling online or in person.
There is no excuse for your friend’s behavior, although it is possible that she made unusual decisions in her grief.
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