DEAR DEIDRE: I fell in love with my brother’s ex, whom he considered “the right one”.
I’m worried she’ll hate me if I start a relationship with her.
I am 32 years old and she is 30. My brother is 34 years old. He was with that woman for three years. They lived together but separated two years ago.
While they were together, I didn’t like or care about her. I just thought of her as my brother’s wife.
But a few months ago I ran into her at a bar in town and we got talking.
We really laughed. We also drank a lot and, later that evening, we ended up kissing passionately.
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We were so engrossed in the moment that when it was time to evict, I invited her back to my place where we had amazing sex.
I texted her the next day and she was nice, but neither of us mentioned what happened. I was left with the feeling that it was a drunken mistake on her part.
Since then we had a lot of friendly conversations and became good friends.
But I don’t know how she feels about me and I think she’s also holding back because she doesn’t want to hurt him.
I really like him and want more than friendship. The problem is that I think my brother would be very upset. He always referred to her as “the one”.
She broke up with him and he was gutted for a while. However, he seems to have gotten over her now and has a new partner.
Should I ask her out properly or would that be a mistake?
I don’t want to spoil my relationship with my brother.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your brother doesn’t own this woman and she can date whoever she likes.
However, he lived with her for two years and was clearly in love with her.
Although he has a new partner, he may still have feelings for her.
Still, there’s no point in risking your relationship with your brother if you don’t know she’s interested in you.
He will probably feel uncomfortable about what happened between you. But if you don’t ask her, you’ll never know how she feels.
If she has feelings for you, only you can decide if you like her enough to risk causing family tension.
If you decide to talk to your brother, take it slow and gauge his reaction one step at a time.
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