DEAR DEIDRE: Watching my wife have sex with my best friend is my ultimate fantasy.
I can’t stop thinking about it, and now I’m working up the courage to ask her to do it, because we’re all going to a party together. He’s already on board.
I am 42 years old and she is 40. We have been married for six years.
My best friend is 43 and single after a divorce.
I first started fantasizing about him sleeping with my wife a few years ago, after he told me he thought he was fit.
We were drunk and I joked that we should have sex.
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Soon it began to take over my thoughts whenever my wife and I were in bed together. Now I’m obsessed.
Thinking about what he would do to her and how she would react really turns me on.
The idea seems so wrong… and yet so right. That’s what makes it exciting.
Although I didn’t tell my wife directly what I wanted her to do, I started showing her both cuckolds and threesomes.
And lately, during sex, I have also introduced sex toys as a substitute for another man.
Next weekend, my wife and I will be spending the weekend at a hotel up north to celebrate a friend’s 40th birthday.
My best friend will be there too. He stayed in the same hotel – and we have rooms on the same floor.
I told him that he just needed to knock on our door.
The only obstacle to my fantasy coming true is that I haven’t told my wife yet.
I have no idea how to open a topic. What do I say?
DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve gotten so caught up in your fantasy and running it that you’ve forgotten the most important thing – your wife.
If you’re not careful, there’s a danger that she could feel ambushed, or worse – like a piece of meat that you traded between you and your best friend. And that could destroy your marriage.
Consider whether turning your fantasy into reality will be as good an experience as you imagine.
Seeing your best mate having sex with her could also ruin your friendship.
If you still want to continue, talk to her about sexual fantasies and see how she reacts when you tell her yours.
My support packages on sexual fantasies and threesomes should give you more food for thought.
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