It turns out you can put a price on love! And for one man it was too high.
The man revealed in a post shared on “Am I the A-hole?” subreddit that he refused to move in with his girlfriend after she told him the amount she expected him to pay in rent to live with her.
“My girlfriend and I have been together for a while. While I’m making good money, my girlfriend actually had a house she was paying for,” he wrote on October 30. “We’ve talked about moving in together, and she doesn’t feel comfortable adding me to her mortgage, even though we do, I want to finally get married.”
He continued: “I said it’s fine and I get it, this is her house and she’s been dealing with it for years. But obviously I don’t want to be a reserved man. I am currently renting an apartment and it is relatively decent for the price.”
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The Reddit user said that after doing some math, he figured her asking rent was double what he’s currently paying for his apartment.
“I told her it was absolutely ridiculous,” he wrote.
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His girlfriend told him that figure was the going rate for a property like hers, which he considers “inaccurate”, arguing that it would cost to rent the entire house on its own, rather than sharing it with another person.
Still, he added, “I could afford it if I didn’t save so much, but it would be too close for comfort.”
He claims the girl accused him of “apologies,” but he drew the line: “I told her I wasn’t going to pay that much,” he wrote. “She insists she really wants to live together, but she said I have to pull my weight.”
In the comments, many readers sided with the boyfriend.
“So she wants you to pay what the fair market value of rent would be for the ENTIRE house? Even though she would live there too?” one commenter asks questions before offering a suggestion. “If she started with half the fair market value of the rent, since you’d be sharing an apartment, that might be a starting point to talk things through.
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Another person saw some of the girl’s POV: “I’m embarrassed to add you to the mortgage I got, but this looks like she’s trying to keep you out while she’s using your relationship to help pay off her mortgage.”
Several others speculated that the unusual offer was symptomatic of a larger problem. “This sounds weird,” writes one redditer. “You are right to question her pricing strategy and even her motivations. Proceed with caution.”
Another said simply: “This looks like a hot mess – and 🚩🚩🚩.”
Many experts say that rent should be split 50/50 or in proportion to each person’s income, according to Slate‘s Pay Dirt and credit report site Experian. A study of unmarried millennial couples in particular noted that most do not split expenses 50/50, according to CNBC.
Almost all sources suggest that you work out your finances with your partner ago co-habitation.
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