A misunderstanding over an heirloom wedding dress created a rift between mother and daughter ahead of the daughter’s wedding.
The mother, 45, shared details of the altercation on the popular Reddit “Am I the A——?” subreddit. In her post, she explained how her daughter (20) is getting married in a few months, and she recently asked her to borrow her wedding dress.
“I said absolutely no because it’s my dress and I love it so much,” the mother wrote under the username @throwawayinspo. “It’s something that a lot of women have done and obviously it’s a beautiful tradition, and mothers are often happy to do it. It’s even an honor for a woman.”
She continued: “But for me, I just can’t. I love this dress. I designed it and my mother, who was an excellent seamstress, made it for me. Looking at my wardrobe, this is the last piece I have that she made. ”
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The mother also said that aside from the sentimental value, letting her daughter borrow the dress required significant alterations to fit the bride. “She’s a lot bigger than me and she just wants to use the fabric and change it permanently because she’s a size 14 and the dress is a 4.”
Even if her daughter did not need to change the dress, the mother declared that she would not allow her to wear it. She expressed her disappointment at her daughter’s lack of respect for her personal belongings, asking: “Since when did mothers stop being their own persons and become nothing more than caterers for their children?”
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In response to the viral post with more than 500 comments, several users pointed out a mother’s right to decide the fate of her own dress, noting the impracticality of altering it to fit a different size.
Some users even criticized the daughter’s behavior, especially her insistence on changing her dress permanently. “You should save it and she’s wrong to complain,” one person wrote. Another added: “It has huge sentimental value and a connection to your mum. As your daughter has a different body type, even if you wanted to borrow the dress, the alterations required would mean it would be a completely different dress.”
Others discussed possible compromises, with one person writing: “Do you have anything else she could borrow for the wedding? Maybe she thought a sense of tradition would be a good idea. like a purse or some jewelry?”
However, not everyone took the mother’s side. One person wrote: “My wedding dress was magnificent and I loved it, still do. It’s been in a box for over thirty years. I’ll never wear it again and have no idea what I’m keeping it for. I’d love to give it to someone (especially my daughter ) if using it would bring him happiness.”
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