DEAR DEIDRE: BEING a cuckold is my greatest thrill, but it has put me in financial trouble.
I now found myself responsible for raising two children who were not mine – both conceived when my wife slept with other men, with my consent.
I am 42 years old and my wife is 38. We have been together for seven years.
Ever since I first became sexually active, I have always enjoyed being cuckolded.
In fact, knowing that the woman I’m with is sleeping with other men—or better yet, watching her do it—turns me on far more than just sex.
Sometimes it’s the only way to get excited.
But most women I’ve been with have either rejected it or tried it and found it distasteful.
I ended up going to a cuckold site, where I met the woman who is now my wife.
She embraced my fetish with great enthusiasm, she received several lovers with joy and often invited me to watch them.
But she wasn’t always careful—again, partly my fault, because I preferred her to have unprotected sex—and she got pregnant twice.
Now she has a four-year-old girl and a two-year-old boy.
Of course, I agreed to support the children, even though they are not mine.
But times are tough now and I’m struggling to afford our living expenses. I’m starting to resent paying for children I don’t father and don’t want.
My wife says that I agreed, so I can’t complain – and she’s right.
Now, it seems, everyone is happy, except me.
I can’t leave though. I’m the only real dad the kids know.
DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve been happily enjoying your cuckold fetish for years, but now you’re reaping the consequences of your unconventional lifestyle.
Although you have consented to your wife having unprotected sex with other men, you are not the father of the children and therefore not responsible for them on paper.
But those children had no say in this arrangement and grew up believing you were their father.
They love you, so even though you may not be their biological father, the bond you’ve established and can strengthen in the future could be just as valuable as any father-child relationship.
Of course you or your wife could contact these men and ask them to fulfill their legal obligations to provide for your children, but would you really want them involved in your family life?
You can discuss your concerns with Family Lives (familylives.org.uk).
Sex and relationship counseling might help. Contact Tavistock Relationships (tavistockrelationships.org) to make an appointment.
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