DEAR DEIDRE: My first neighbor keeps talking about sex in front of my wife – which makes me wonder if they’re having an affair.
He also hugs her every chance he gets – a little too long, too tight, and sometimes even rubs her back when they say goodbye. Makes me paranoid.
I am 44 years old, and my wife is 42 years old. We have been married for 12 years and have two children.
We always got along well with all our neighbors in our quiet cul-de-sac. Everyone is kind and helpful, and sometimes we hang out.
About six months ago, a new family moved in next door. They are a little younger than us and have no children.
The wife works a lot while away, and the husband works from home and cleans the house.
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From the moment they met, he and my wife seemed to take a shine to each other.
At first, I didn’t mind that he made her laugh, or that she kept coming to get food.
But lately I’ve noticed a strong sexual tension between them. He often makes crude jokes or uses allusions.
Otherwise, my wife would find this rude or inappropriate. She doesn’t – she just laughs even louder.
They do it in front of me, so they don’t hide it.
I think they also texted each other, although I couldn’t confirm that because my wife always has her phone handy and I don’t know her password.
It seems like they are intimate, or about to become so.
I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to stand up to my wife and upset her if I’m wrong.
DEIDRE SAYS: The way your wife acts around this man makes you insecure, so you need to address that.
You have no concrete proof that they are having an affair. It is possible that they just share a sense of humor and have become good friends.
But your gut tells you that something is going on between them.
You need to talk to your wife. Instead of confronting her about a possible affair, which will make her defensive, it’s better to take a gentler approach.
You might say that you feel uncomfortable with his hugs and his sex talk.
Ask her how she would feel if you behaved the same way with his wife.
If he wants to respect your relationship, he will accept your feelings and discourage his behavior.
See my support package, Caring for your relationship, for more advice.
Categories: Optical Illusion
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