DEAR DEIDRE: I’ve been intimate with a guy for a whole semester at university, but I just found out he already has a girlfriend who knows everything about me and is okay with our relationship.
I’m pale and feel like the two of them were laughing at me behind my back.
We are both on the same undergraduate course in mechanical engineering. I am 20 and he is 21.
I spotted him right away because he is very handsome and athletically built.
He pretty much ignored me last year, but this term is completely different.
As soon as the year started, he flirted with me.
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We are in the same group of friends and, after a night out on the town, he asked if he could “walk me home”.
We ended up in bed making out.
Since then, we’ve been hanging out in each other’s bedrooms and doing absolutely everything but full sex together.
To be honest, I thought he was withholding penetrative sex to tease me and it turns me on beyond belief.
I was really starting to like him and I thought he felt the same way.
But every time I mentioned telling my friends about us, he always said he’d rather keep it a secret because it’s more exciting that way.
Then, last week – right after we had oral sex – he left me in his bed to go to the bathroom.
At the same time, a message popped up on his phone.
I glanced over and read, “Call me when you leave.
“I need to hear all the dirty details”.
At first I thought it must be one of our friends who found out about our deal.
I know I shouldn’t have, but he wasn’t careful with his needle so I quickly opened his phone to see which friend it was.
I was completely taken aback when I discovered that he apparently had a girlfriend in his hometown and that she knew everything about me.
They obviously played with the fact that he would go to bed with me because they were trying out an open relationship.
One rule was that he was not allowed to have penetrative sex.
I’m furious, but I still have feelings for him.
Do you think there is a chance for us?
DEIDRE SAYS: This man and his girlfriend used you for their own sexual pleasure.
None of them have any regard for you and you would be much better off cutting off all contact.
Please don’t hang around hoping that he might see the light and realize that you’re the one for him.
You’d be wasting your time and, even if he decides he wants to be with you, do you really want a relationship with someone you have a hard time trusting?
I’m sending you my Moving On to help support package.
Categories: Optical Illusion
Source: HIS Education