DEAR DEIDRE: I talked my wife into going to a sex party and now she’s worried I’ll think she’s easy.
We have been married for 10 years and have an eight-year-old son. I am a painter and decorator and my wife works in a car rental company.
We have a great marriage and lots of fun in the bedroom. I am 45 and she is 38. I was already married and in my past life with my ex we enjoyed the swinging scene.
A colleague raved about a sex party he attended recently, and that piqued my interest again.
So I started the idea of going to a similar “party” with my wife. The next day she told me that she had thought about it and was willing to give it a try.
Two weeks later, we entered. We left our phones in the locker and went to the bar.
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We both had our first two drinks – I must have been more nervous than I expected. My wife received many admiring glances which she lapped up.
Within an hour, she had two guys kissing and caressing her, while I was touching with another woman.
My wife had sex with three different men that night and I had sex with one person. When we got home, we had amazing sex together while recounting the night’s events.
It was a big turnaround.
I was surprised the next day, when my wife looked back on our evening, saying that she had gone too far and that I should have stopped her.
She is afraid that I will see her in a different light – as someone who is dirty and who will sleep with anyone.
I don’t feel like it, but how can I talk her out of it?
DEIDRE SAYS: Opening up about your relationship may sound exciting and many believe it will improve the relationship, but it can have the complete opposite effect.
Turning a fantasy into reality can bring unexpected emotions to the fore.
To try and ensure you both have a positive experience, good communication, including talking about clear rules and boundaries, is absolutely essential.
You have a strong relationship so reassure her that you love her and won’t judge her for something you instigated.
Organize a weekend for the two of you so you can focus on her. This will give you a chance to reaffirm that she is the one you want. My Swapping And Swinging support package will also help.
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