Oliver Hudson Reveals the Relationship Rule He and Wife Erinn Have After 18 Years of Marriage (Exclusive)

Oliver Hudson and wife Erinn Hudson know how to keep their marriage strong.

While attending the Goldie Hawn Foundation’s 20th Anniversary MindUP Gala in Los Angeles on Sept. 27, the 48-year-old actor opened up about the relationship rule he and Erinn, 51, have after 18 years of marriage. .

“You never want to go [away from each other for] too long, but if you’re in this business, you’re going to be away,” Oliver said. “I always try to come home whenever I can.”

“But other than that, I think it’s more about individuation,” he continued. “I think there’s a tendency to become codependent, when you feel bad, I feel bad. We’re a unit, yes we are, but we’re individuals. You’ve got to go do your s– – and let me do my s– – and let it be okay.”

“If I want to go golfing, if I want to go fishing, let me. If you want to go be with your girls, if you want to do whatever you want, you can do it,” he added. Cleaning lady star. – I think that is the most important thing.

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Detailing his strong bond with Erinn, Oliver likened their marriage to “holding a marble slab.”

“If you have one pole, that s— is going to sway and probably fall. If you have two, there’s more stability,” he explained to PEOPLE.

Oliver added, “So if we have two of them, that structure stays intact and that’s how we move through our stuff. You know what I mean?”

Oliver Hudson in Los Angeles on September 27, 2024.

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Oliver met Erinn at Sandy Marshall’s acting class in the late 90s. Although Oliver had a girlfriend at the time, he and Erinn became friends, and after about a year and a half, they took a step forward.

The actor later proposed to Erinn in February 2004, and they married in Mexico in June 2006. In the years that followed, the couple had three children – sons Wilder Brooks and Bodhi Hawn, and daughter Ria Laura.

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