Our threesome resulted in the biggest shock for everyone involved

DEAR DEIDRE: I stupidly agreed to a threesome with my best friend and her boyfriend – and now she’s pregnant with my guy’s child.

I am a 30-year-old woman, and my friend is 31 years old. We grew up together.

She always wanted a threesome, and I said I was playing with the right person. But that was certainly not at the forefront of my mind.

Then when I met my boyfriend, who is 33, she made it clear that she thought he would be our perfect third person.

In the end I agreed to talk to my partner.

He was skeptical at first, but then we had a night at our apartment and my friend and I worked on it – and we all ended up in bed together.

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Life then returned to normal. But then on Christmas Eve my friend showed up unannounced.

She took out a pregnancy test from her purse and showed me the positive result.

I was horrified when the penny dropped that it was my boyfriend’s child.

My boyfriend and I expected that he would decide to break up. And my boyfriend was ready to pay for the procedure.

But she said no. She said she wanted to become a mom for a long time.

She told me that it was hard to get upset because I went along with the three, but I thought she was on the pill.

Now he constantly sends me pictures of apartments or houses that we could all rent together.

That’s the last thing I want. How would that turn out? It’s pulling my head in.

DEIDRE SAYS: As shocking and unwelcome as your friend’s news is, I’m afraid the decision about the pregnancy should be hers.

I’m sorry, but this situation could end your friendship and possibly your relationship.

Talk to your boyfriend about how he will handle it.

In an ideal world, a child will have two loving parents and, at the very least, will have to support that child financially.

My Unplanned Pregnancy Support Pack will show you all where to find support and advice.

Having unprotected sex also puts your sexual health at risk, so encourage everyone involved to visit their local sexual health clinic to get tested.

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