DEAR DEIDRE: Sex with my cousin was exciting—until she admitted she was in love with me.
Now I’m panicking because I thought it was just a party. I don’t want a relationship and I’m afraid it will destroy my family.
I’m 23 and she’s 21. My dad is her mom’s brother.
We were close when we were young, but then her family moved away, so we didn’t see each other for years.
Last summer, her sister got married and we all went to the wedding, which was held at the hotel.
When I saw her, I couldn’t understand what a beautiful woman she had become. We chatted and flirted and got drunk.
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At the end of the evening, I took the remaining bottle of wine to her hotel room. We started kissing, things got very passionate and we ended up in her bed having sex.
Knowing how shocked our families are would make the relationship even more exciting.
The next day we agreed to keep it a secret and never let it happen again. But in September she returned to the city where I live to study. We started corresponding and arranged to meet.
We tried to keep things platonic but failed. We have crazy sexual chemistry. Since then we have sex at every opportunity.
None of my friends know she’s my cousin. A few days ago we were in bed when she blurted out that she loves me and wants to go public with our relationship.
She said she googled “cousin sex” and we weren’t doing anything wrong. But I don’t want to be tied down, least of all she.
My parents will be horrified. My friends will think I’m a pervert.
How can I end this without her revealing our dirty secret?
DEIDRE SAYS: Your cousin is right. In the UK it is not illegal to have sex with or even marry your first cousin.
But that’s not a problem, because you want out while she wants commitment. And suddenly, the excitement was gone.
You need to be honest with your cousin, but be kind and let her down gently. Say you don’t feel ready for a relationship with her or anyone else.
Explain how your family and friends might react to this and try to convince her that it is better to keep it to yourself.
It would be wise to stay on friendly terms as you will probably have to see her at future family events.
Categories: Optical Illusion
Source: HIS Education