A mum-to-be wonders if she was wrong to cancel her family’s Christmas dinner after her brother’s sick jokes about her pregnancy.
In a post shared on Reddit, “AITA” — which stands for “Am I A—— — the pregnant woman said she’s been “hosting Christmas dinner at my house” for years and absolutely loves doing it. However, she put her foot down this after her younger brother, Marco, who was “always the family joker” went “over the top”.
According to the woman, she surprised her family with the news of her pregnancy just a few weeks ago.
“I shared the news during an intimate family lunch and everyone was delighted… except Marc,” she continued. “He laughed and said, ‘Are you sure? With how much you’re eating, I just thought it was a holiday belly.’ ”
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“His comment hurt, but I tried to ignore it so as not to spoil the moment,” the woman wrote. – Unfortunately, it didn’t stay there.
The woman said her younger brother actually created a family WhatsApp group called “The Mystery of the Baby or the Turkey,” which was filled with “memes and jokes about whether I’m really pregnant or just gaining weight.”
Understandably, after finding out, the woman felt “uncomfortable” and “humiliated”.
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“I confronted Marc directly, but he brushed it off, saying it was just ‘humor’ and everyone was laughing,” she wrote, noting that he told her, “Don’t take it so seriously.”
But after thinking about the prank for a few days, she made the “difficult decision” to cancel the Christmas dinner at her house.
“I told my family that I needed a break and that someone else could host. Of course, everyone started asking why, and when I explained what Marco had done, opinions were divided,” she wrote.
“My mom thinks I’m exaggerating and should ‘let it go because it’s Christmas,'” she added, noting that some of her aunts and cousins agree that her little brother “crossed the line.”
However, there are also family members who simply “think that canceling dinner is punishing everyone else.”
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The woman went on to write that she feels “guilty”, but also believes that she has “the right to protect her peace, especially at such an important moment in my life”.
As for the opinions of her fellow Redditors, they mostly sided with her.
“Your brother’s behavior was disrespectful and extremely cruel,” wrote one commenter. “His ‘jokes’ targeted a deeply personal and joyful moment in your life, turning it into a public humiliation. Creating a group chat to make fun of your pregnancy wasn’t harmless humor; it was mean and dismissive of your feelings.”
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“Hosting Christmas dinner is a big emotional and physical strain, especially when you’re pregnant, and you have every right to set boundaries and prioritize your peace,” the response read. “Cancelling dinner sends a clear message that his behavior has consequences.”
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Another commenter added that the situation was made worse by the fact that the woman was not included in the group chat with the cruel name.
“If it was just a joke, why weren’t you involved?” was the answer. “He created an entire group chat to make fun of you behind your back, and only one relative was embarrassed enough to speak up.”
Looking on the bright side, others pointed out that now might be the perfect time to support quiet moments. “Maybe keep this Christmas night personal since it’s the last time you two are alone?” read one comment. “Trust me, you’re going to miss this time despite having so much fun with the kid.”
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