90 Day Fiancé: Another wayKenny Niedermeier and his husband Armando Niedermeier-Rubio are open about how they are dealing with the decision to expand their family.
During the fifth season of the TLC series, Kenny, 60, wasn’t sure if he wanted to welcome a child, while his husband Armando, 35, intended to have a child together.
Armando tells PEOPLE exclusively that at times he felt like he was “putting Kenny down because it feels like it’s been going on forever. And it’s like, I want an answer.”
“Ultimately, this was one of the biggest things that caused us to have differences of opinion, thoughts and feelings about what we wanted to do,” he adds. “But our choice is definitely something that will bring us closer together, and that will show in the show.”
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However, Kenny denies that he was pressured to change his mind about the decision to expand their family.
“A lot of people think he’s putting pressure on me to do it, and I’m just saying, ‘I’m too old, I’m too old.’ It’s not like I want to retire and I want to sit in a rocking chair,” he explains. “That’s not it. My thoughts on it have always been like, I want to always be here. It’s not because I want to retire or I don’t want kids. That’s not true. I love kids.”
He adds that being with Armando’s daughter Hannah in the early days of the relationship made him realize that another child could be a possibility in the future, explaining: “And when I came with Armando, Hannah was actually four years old. She was actually three years old when I met him for the first time, so I knew I was going to get into something like that. So it wasn’t like that [an] from the wall for him to ask me for it.”
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Armando and Kenny in ’90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way’.
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Kenny believes the show “helped” in making the decision because “you kind of have to have discussions that maybe you don’t have all the time or maybe you’re not as assertive or whatever, or you really put your feelings out there as much as you can.”
“A lot of people just sit. I’m not the type to sit back. I’ll say what I feel about it. And I think that really made us express how we felt about it,” he shares. “And I think that really came out more in Armand. Over the years he has become much stronger and more confident than when I first met him. But all that is a good thing.”
Armando admits that Kenny “is the one who kind of pushed me to become myself and be who I am.”
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“That’s why I think this season you’ve seen a lot of us bump into each other a little bit more than in the past,” he admits. “But ultimately we put each other first, we hear each other, we have a great conversation and good communication. So, in the end, it is decided what is best for us and our family.”
Despite their differences of opinion, Kenny adds that they always “try to put each other’s feelings first.”
“We really care about the other person’s feelings and how the other person feels, that they’re smiling, that they’re really happy at the end of the day.”
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90 Day Fiancé: Another way airs Mondays at 8:00 PM ET on TLC.
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