Could the man who started America’s sexual revolution be bad in the sack?
This is claimed by Crystal Hefner, the young widow of cultural icon Hugh Hefner, who wrote about her life (in and out of the bedroom) in her memoirs. Say only good things: surviving Playboy and finding yourself. Ex Crystal Harris, now 37, opened up to PEOPLE about the world she entered when she was just 21 and Hefner was a full 60 years her senior.
The sun was setting on the Playboy empire when the third and final Mrs. Hugh Hefner arrived on the scene in October 2008, and she was there as the mansion was dismantled shortly after Hugh passed his final time in his bedroom in 2017 at the age of 91.
That bedroom turned out to be less of a wild, unrestrained pit of passion, and more of a stage for a programmed sexual farce.
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The first time Crystal met Hefner was when she attended a Halloween party at a mansion in Los Angeles and was quickly picked to have group sex with the lord of the castle.
There was no kissing, romance or intimacy in that bedroom, not that first night or the nights that followed during the nearly nine years she was one of Hef’s celebrity girlfriends to his legally wedded wife.
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“This was a well-oiled and well-rehearsed sequence of events. The one who went the same way every time,” writes Crystal. “To pick some girls from the party and bring them up. Changing into work uniform: silk pajamas. Light dimming. Music. Pornography. Adding a pot. And then sex.”
Crystal Hefner and Hugh Hefner at the BFF Luncheon honoring Raquel Pomplun on May 9, 2013.
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Hef didn’t even look at her when they had sex
Even on that first night, Crystal says the sex was “weird and robotic.”
“It’s like Hef was just going through the motions of something that used to be fun and sexy,” she writes. “Or maybe it was never fun and sexy.”
He explains that no one wanted to give Hefner advice on anything, especially when it came to sex. “I think when you have so much money and power and so many ‘yes’ people around you, you just stick to your own story in your mind,” Crystal says. “And then everyone else goes along with it.”
Hugh never looked at her when it was her turn to climb aboard; just staring with boredom at a strategically placed overhead mirror. “There was nothing sexy about it,” she writes. “It was about power, control and influence. It was a performance. I auditioned for the role.”
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Over the years she marveled at the lack of awareness Hugh had of her and his partners. The book asks if he really thought everyone was enjoying it. “He seemed less sex-savvy than some of the teenagers I dated years ago,” she writes. “It was clear to me that Hef had never in his life taken a moment to figure out how to please someone else. ”
Of her late husband, she writes, “I think he loved me as much as it was possible for him to love anybody.” This includes his four children.
“Hef’s dynamic with the family was interesting,” says Crystal. “He would always tell me that there wasn’t much love in his house when he was growing up. Not between his parents or his parents to him. So I don’t think he fully understood the relationship or the father.”
She played the same song every time they had sex
Crystal says she actually preferred group sex to being alone with Hefner, who relied on sex-enhancing drugs. She writes about “little blue pill nights” when a couple would have sex and he needed music. Every time they were intimate, she would repeat the same Madonna song. He says if he plays just one particular song “then no other music will be contaminated by this place.”
Crystal says the sex stopped in 2014 “and I was relieved. There were no more bringing girls home, no more performances,” she adds. “For years I kept up the Playboy charade for Hef, for the public.”
The Playboy mansion had a reputation, a legacy, as one of the first liberated sex-positive places.
“Now I wondered if that place ever really existed,” she says.
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