A woman on Reddit says that instead of a wish list this year, she’s giving her mom an anti-list — a list of all the things she doesn’t want to get for Christmas.
In an anonymous post, the 33-year-old woman writes that she finds it “difficult to buy gifts”.
“I really don’t want more stuff than I have, I have so much stuff and nowhere to put it as it is (recent move really opened my eyes to this),” she writes. “Besides, I’m financially stable enough and have cheap enough hobbies that I can usually buy myself something whenever I want.”
After the woman’s mom asked that everyone in the family give her their Christmas lists early so she could start shopping, the woman writes that she “couldn’t remember much of what she wanted.”
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“When I was trying to come up with ideas for things, I was mostly just dreading all the kinds of things that I usually get for Christmas and then have to find a place for them,” she writes. “I decided to include a list of things they don’t buy me, thinking it might be as helpful as a list of things I want. I put things on the list like ‘fun’ socks, Funko Pops, anything I have to put together a so-called ‘Merry Christmas , I have homework that you have to do now’, throwing blankets, jewelry, throwing pillows, ornaments, etc.
Although she says she was going to add a few things she wanted later, it was too late. A woman added an anti-list to the family’s shared Google Doc — and her mom called.
“The day after I got on the adversary list, my mom called asking why I did it and complaining that I never like the gifts she gives me,” he writes. “I’ve told her in the past that I don’t want these things and she’ll remember for a year and then buy me a pair of slippers the next which is then joined by four other pairs that I don’t already wear. I showed this outside and she complained about how hard it was for me to shop for gifts and that just getting gift cards is boring.”
The woman’s mom, she writes, “thinks it is negative to have a list against and wants to delete it but… my brother and his wife have now made anti-lists, as have my uncle and cousin. My brother also joked about a secret anti-gamer list for their kids to avoid terribly messy or noisy toys.”
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The woman’s family as a whole, he adds, is “divided” over the anti-paper issue, although her mother is firmly against it.
Now, the woman wants to know if she’s wrong.
Commentators are divided on the issue, with some saying that it seems like a mom’s love language is giving and that a woman should just accept the gift and donate it if she doesn’t enjoy it.
Others suggested that the woman add some things she wanted, as she had originally intended.
“An anti-list is fine as long as there’s a decent do-list along with it,” writes one commenter. “Yours is currently unfinished, however, you intend to come back and add more stuff. It’s simply a work in progress.”
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