DEAR DEIDRE: I made the biggest mistake of my life and had sex with my boyfriend’s father – now I don’t know which of the two is the father of my unborn baby.
My partner is 29 years old and I am 28. We have been together for three years.
I always got along well with his family, and when he went to college to train to be a police officer, they invited me to live with them so I wouldn’t be alone in the apartment.
I immediately stepped in and helped with cooking and shopping.
After a month, I started to notice that my father-in-law would often watch me quietly, and when he looked at me, I would get butterflies in my stomach.
My mother-in-law worked odd shifts because she was a caregiver, and I spent more time alone with my boyfriend’s dad.
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I missed my boyfriend terribly and I don’t know what happened to me, but I started fantasizing about his dad.
One Friday night we were alone in the house and a really sexy movie came on the TV. It was weird watching it with him, and it felt more like we were a couple.
When it was time for bed, I went to the bathroom and then went to my room, hoping he would come in. I couldn’t sleep and, when I heard a sound outside my door, I went to investigate.
My father-in-law was standing there. I attracted him without hesitation and we had passionate sex.
But as soon as we were done, it felt like the spell was broken and I deeply regretted cheating.
The next day his dad and I talked and agreed that we would never let something like that happen again.
He seemed to feel just as bad as I did. But now I found out I’m pregnant and I can’t be completely sure who the dad is. I do not know what to do.
DEIDRE SAYS: First of all, you need to decide if you want to continue with this pregnancy before you decide to share your worries with your boyfriend or father-in-law.
If you are determined to proceed, you can do a DNA test after the baby is born to determine who the dad is.
However, if you do decide to have this child, consider that you may be faced with raising the little one alone.
Because even if you try to hide your infidelity, these family secrets often come out one way or another.
You have a lot to consider and it would certainly help to discuss your options with a counselor.
Read my support pack, Unplanned Pregnancy, to help you sort out your options.
A second one called How Counseling Can Help would also be helpful.
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