DEAR DEIDRE: I was STUPID when I left my husband for a lover, even though the sex with my new boyfriend is great and so adventurous.
I am 41 years old and my husband is 43 years old. We have been married for 20 years.
We were mostly happy until he started drinking excessively.
He’s always liked a drink, but when he’s not going out to get hit on, he’s thinking about it.
I ran into an ex-boyfriend a few weeks ago. It was so nice to see him.
We ended up going out for a drink together.
He told me he was unhappy in his relationship and I ended up telling him how miserable I felt too.
We exchanged numbers and met a few more times until one afternoon he kissed me.
It’s been years since my husband showed me any love. He doesn’t even hold my hand.
It gave me a real push to be in demand again.
We started a passionate affair and I was overcome with excitement.
But that was short lived and it wasn’t long before my husband found out.
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Feeling suspicious, he examined my phone.
He ended up contacting my lover’s partner and telling her what was going on, even though I begged him not to.
After that, we felt we had no choice but to leave the existing relationships.
We rented an apartment together, but since my lover pays most of the bills, I ask permission for everything I do or buy for the place.
It gives me the feeling that it is exclusively his home, not mine.
It was nice to hear my husband’s voice when he contacted me one day.
He promised he hadn’t touched a drop of alcohol since I left and he wants me back.
I said I’d give it some thought, but am I crazy to even think about it?
DEIDRE SAYS: Not necessarily, but your husband needs to prove to you that he has changed and that you are his priority, not booze.
Support can be found through Drinkline (0300 123 1110).
Your lover is controlling the situation and if you stay with him, it could be worse.
It is possible that your relationship with your husband will become stronger if you are both willing to work on it.
My support packages, Coping with a Problem Alcoholic and Caring for Your Relationship, will help you get things back on track if that’s what you both want.
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