DEAR DEIDRE: I’m in love with my son’s best friend and I’m falling very hard for him – I think I want us to have a future together.
After being single for three years, I couldn’t resist him when he started flirting with me.
We fell into my bed and had a very energetic encounter.
That was seven months ago and we both said we wanted it casual.
But now my son, who is 22, is due to return from a gap year and I can’t face being fired.
I am 43 years old and divorced from the father of my son.
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When my son went traveling through Central and South America last winter, his best friend called one evening to check on me.
I’ve known him all my life and, aside from thinking he’s growing into a lovely adult, I’ve always secretly admired his very athletic physique.
We talked that night and he offered to help me with some DIY around the house — we agreed that he would come back the next day to help me install a new door.
We worked closely together and I felt myself getting quite upset.
He was supposed to go out that evening so I asked him if he could take a shower at my place.
When he came out of the bathroom, with only a towel around his waist, I couldn’t take my eyes off him.
He slid his arms around my waist and led me to my bedroom where we made love on my bed.
I felt so wanted and young again, and the sex was out of this world. Now he spends most nights at my place.
I feel so sad thinking that we won’t be together when my son comes home, but the alternative seems unimaginable.
Should I leave? Or risk my relationship with my son?
DEIDRE SAYS: Relationships with a big age gap can work, but this young man is just starting out in the world and you’re in such different stages of life.
Things may be fine for a while, but what would you do if he decided he wanted a family?
First you need to ask your young lover how he feels.
After all, he might only see this as a love affair while his friend is away.
You’re flattered by the attention, but ask yourself, can you really see a long-term relationship?
Would you really be willing to sacrifice a great relationship with your son for this young man?
Read my support package with a younger man? to help you see this realistically.
If your young lover is serious about you, honesty will be the best policy with your son – but be prepared that it will take him a long time to come to his senses.
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