DEAR DEIDRE: The SECRET meeting with our third session partner was exciting, yet I’m upset.
I didn’t do anything with that other woman that the woman hadn’t already seen me do with her, but I still feel bad.
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My wife and I had three with another woman – now I’m seeing her secretly
I am a 35-year-old man, and my wife is 33 years old. We have been married for five years and have a baby and a toddler.
My wife is a stay-at-home mom and I work in construction.
Our relationship is great, but since the kids were born, sex seems vanilla and boring. It is fast at best before going to bed because we are very tired.
A friend raved about a dating site he joined, boasting about how he’d had great sex.
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So after a glass or two of wine one night I suggested we spice things up in the bedroom with my wife.
She agreed, but wanted to go with another woman, not a man. We filled out a dating profile and several women matched us. We chose the one that appealed to us the most.
We hired a babysitter, went to the hotel and met the escort at the bar. She looked fantastic, was 29 years old and single.
We took some wine to the room and the party began. It was great to feel wanted by two women and to see them together.
The following weekend, the woman contacted me again, asking to meet. I went to her place and we had oral sex together.
It was exciting, but now I feel guilty towards my wife. Should I see if they will give me a pass?
DEIDRE SAYS: Opening any relationship is a delicate business, and strong communication is the foundation of success.
You’ve both agreed to one-time threesomes, but have you discussed boundaries around that?
I doubt your wife would approve of you meeting that woman alone – and certainly not without talking.
Some people can make non-monogamy work, but bringing people outside of your relationship into your bedroom is fraught with risk.
And this woman’s demands suggest that she might become emotionally involved with you, which could jeopardize your marriage.
When you have a young family, your sex life takes a backseat, but with effort you can still bond and have fun.
Nothing stays the same forever, in the future you will find that you both have more time and energy to invest in each other.
Don’t jeopardize your good relationship with secret meetings. My support package called Fancy A Threesome? explains more.
Categories: Optical Illusion
Source: HIS Education