DEAR DEIDRE: I’m technically having an affair with my own girlfriend because she moved another guy into her apartment.
We are both 29 and were together for three years until the arguments started about me being addicted to going out with friends and drinking.
I admit that I treated her terribly, I didn’t tell her when I didn’t come home from work, and sometimes I didn’t answer for days after bending.
I am a currency trader and I love my job. When I’m not at work, I’m out with friends or on my Xbox.
That’s the life I had until it all came crashing down after my girlfriend said she’d had enough and kicked me out.
She needed space, so I moved in with my brother. My girlfriend said she can’t afford the rent on her own.
A guy from her job moved into the spare room. He is 26 years old. She kept talking about him, so I thought maybe there was a sexual connection.
One night I texted her drunk asking her out and she admitted they had sex.
She asked if I would like to meet her. We went for coffee. She said that she misses me and that the guy means nothing to her.
She said he was away at a conference so she invited me back to our old apartment. The sex was out of proportion – full of love and tenderness.
She wants me back but can’t do anything about the other guy. She says she’s stuck because he signed the contract and told me not to put my life on hold.
After all, we meet for sex. Where do I go from here?
Deidre says: Maybe she genuinely cares about you, but she’s worried that if you come back, you’ll slip back into the drinking/gaming rut of living a selfish life. Are you determined to change your behavior?
Only if you are determined to make some changes, then encourage her to come clean with her tenant and explain to you that you are back on the scene.
If she objects, he can move out of his own free will, and if he does, it’s your chance to show her that you can be a considerate boyfriend.
Go out with your friends, but limit your drinking. Arrange dates with your girlfriend to prove that you can be considerate.
If she chooses her lodger-lover over you, you’ll have to accept that it’s time to move on.
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Categories: Optical Illusion
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