Kailyn Lowry Explains Why When It Comes to a Support System for Her Family, 'We Keep It in the House' (Exclusive)

• Kailyn Lowry opens up about managing a family of nine
• Speaking with PEOPLE about her podcasting tour, Lowry explains her decision to push her boundaries with those outside of her household
• The mum-of-seven explains how she managed to maintain her independence in her relationship with fiancé Elijah Scott

Kailyn Lowry has learned to keep a small circle.

The podcasting pro and mother of seven, 32, tells PEOPLE that in recent years she’s been careful and intentional about taking a different approach to how she shares her life.

“I try to keep as much of my issues within our four walls of this house or within therapy as much as I can,” she tells PEOPLE.

“Because I just don’t think I need an outside check on the internet and podcasts for every little thing. And so I’m really selective about what I share with people, whether it’s friends on a personal level or a podcast or something like that,” explains Lowry.

When it comes to relying on a support system in her chaotic day-to-day life, Lowry says she’s learned, “I want to keep things kind of private and deal with it in our household and in therapy and go from there because at the end of the day, I don’t know what the support system will look like tomorrow. I don’t know if people will sell me to make a quick buck.”

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Lowry is proud of the fact that her family is “trying to deal with it a little better than we’ve done in the past by going public.”

“I feel like sometimes when I was younger I would tell all my closest friends every detail. That didn’t work, so I don’t want to keep making that mistake. So we work it out in our house, and we work it out in therapy.”

Trust issues that arose from previous betrayals made it “very difficult” for me to move forward. Lowry, now engaged to partner Elijah Scott, says being independent and succeeding in a partnership has been difficult.

Kailyn Lowry with her children, Isaac, Lincoln, Lux and Creed.

Kailyn Lowry on Instagram

“I’ll admit that at first it was very difficult for me to even get into this relationship and then share it with her because I’ve always maintained my independence, I feel like, since I left Joe in 2010,” she explains.

“So I really just wanted to keep my independence. Knowing that Elijah is an equal partner and that he doesn’t take anything away from me, but adds even more, was really hard for me to come to terms with. I absolutely love him and it’s a huge help, but no I know why I struggled so much with the independence part.”

Lowry is proud to watch Scott “evolve” as stepfather to her four older boys — Creed, 4, Lux, 7, Lincoln, 10, and Isaac, 14.

Kailyn Lowry (left), Elijah Scott.

Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty; Kailyn Lowry/Instagram

“It was really cool to watch the relationship develop and him develop as a father, not only as a father, but truly as a stepfather. Because when he came, we didn’t have children together, and then very quickly we did,” she says.

“I think the support of the audience helped me a lot because they also know who I am and that relationships are not perfect, but also that they don’t have to be perfect to be good. That support is nice, and that knowledge is also nice.”

Fans can catch Lowry, along with various co-hosts, on the rest of it Hardly F—— Tour podcast tour.

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