Kendra Wilkinson Says She’s Been ‘Celibate’ Since Hank Baskett Split, Reveals Where They Stand Now (Exclusive)

Kendra Wilkinson has turned over a new leaf after splitting from ex-husband Hank Baskett.

In an exclusive interview with PEOPLE, Wilkinson, 38, talks about how she’s been navigating the changes in her life since her 2018 divorce and explains what her priorities are as she navigates the next chapter of her life.

“Right now, I’m focused on my kids, the love they get from me and life, and raising them — and loving myself,” she tells PEOPLE exclusively. “It’s all about self-love and self-care. If I don’t take care of myself, no one else will. So the most important thing is to focus on your mental health.”

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Kendra Wilkinson.

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Former Playboy the model is also concentrating on maintaining a healthy relationship with Baskett, 41, with whom she has son Hank Jr., 14, and daughter Alijah Mary, 9.

Wilkinson and Baskett said “I do” in a fairytale wedding at the Playboy Mansion in June 2009, and their romance was featured on WE TV Kendra on topwhich lasted from 2012 to 2017. However, by 2018, the couple had split following cheating allegations against Baskett and a tumultuous nine years of marriage.

Although Baskett previously admitted to PEOPLE that he “messed up” and regretted causing “pain to this family,” Wilkinson says she holds nothing against her ex-husband.

“I am a lover. So if I love you, even as a human being, you owe me nothing, but I will love you through your problem,” explains Wilkinson. “I know myself, I can forgive. And I want to see Hank do well in life. He works so hard — he puts so much effort into his work and becomes a great dad.”

“What he did in my marriage does not define him today,” she continues. “He’s not like that to me today. Today I see him as an amazing co-parent, I see him as an amazing father. And I am so blessed, so blessed that he is my co-parent.”

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Kendra Wilkinson with her two children.

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Looking back, Wilkinson also believes there is no one person to blame for the breakup of their marriage.

“I [also] made mistakes in our marriage and we both signed up for a reality show with our marriage,” she says. “And we never had a chance to really know who we were.”

Kendra Wilkinson says her children gave her ‘a purpose to stay alive’ after losing the reality show

Kendra Wilkinson.

Ari & Louise

As for the future, Wilkinson reveals that she hasn’t had a man in her life in a while. She says she doesn’t see marriage “on the cards” anytime soon, but would like to “start having fun” again.

“It’s been so long since I’ve had sex—it’s been so long since I’ve had sex at all,” says Wilkinson. “Because I was also ashamed of my sexuality. Everyone sees me as a sex icon, so I was embarrassed. I was ashamed and avoided all sex. I almost became celibate.”

“I can’t go back in time and change history, but I’m here to move forward in my life and up,” she adds. “And live the good life. That’s why I’m here.”

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It was this positive attitude that helped Wilkinson embrace her next chapter in life.

“I have two of the most amazing children. They are good, solid human beings who want to achieve in life. And I have so much good ahead of me,” she says. “This is just the beginning of my life. I feel like I’ve just pressed rebirth. I feel like I’m being dealt new cards. Like what’s in front of me right now?”

“I hope so, I’m excited,” she adds. “Whatever that storm or that hurricane or whatever hell that I was a part of is now far away. And so the only thing I can really do is rebuild it, rebuild it and focus on what I have and how to nurture what I have and enjoy in your life.”

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