DEAR DEIDRE: My secret lover is also my husband’s friend.
I am enchanted by him and stay with my husband only for comfort.
I hoped that one day my flame and I would be a true couple because I am only truly happy when we are together.
But last month he admitted that he has a much younger girlfriend to whom he now wants to devote himself more. I didn’t even know it existed.
He says we can still meet but only as friends. Friends in his book means that we can no longer have “full sex” even though kisses and oral sex would be fine.
I am 49 years old, my husband is 51. We have been together for 26 years. Our children left home.
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My husband’s friend, 50, is someone he has known since elementary school. He had his ups and downs over the years and my husband was always there for him.
This friend and I always flirted, but nothing serious. Then one evening I was out with some colleagues and ran into him in town.
He told me that he really liked me and asked me if I was ready to go. I was so flattered that I agreed.
We started meeting for sex – usually in his car. I feel guilty about what I’m doing, but I’m fascinated by this man.
I’m so confused because I thought he had more feelings for me. I love talking to him and spending time with him.
So should we stay friends or should I leave my husband?
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s wrong to cheat on your husband, but his friend was a welcome distraction in your ordinary marriage.
A little flirting can be fun and harmless, but it can easily lead to very hurtful situations if you let it go too far. And to be clear, this man is offering you less than nothing.
He has been disloyal to your husband, who has always helped him, and now he is showing you that he places little importance on your relationship.
Friends do not meet for oral sex behind their partner’s back.
Instead of continuing to let this man take advantage of you, let him know that dead ends are not your style and see if you can give your marriage a boost.
At the very least, your husband deserves that effort. Organize a regular date and set aside time for intimacy.
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