DEAR DEIDRE: My terminally ill husband texted his stepsister to ask her what color panties she was wearing.
It turned my stomach and confirmed a suspicion I had harbored for years – they were in a relationship.
She is 51 and my husband is 57. When I met him 20 years ago, he said he had two long-term relationships.
One was with a girl from college – but he didn’t want to talk about the other.
Now I know why: I believe it is his half-sister.
I am 53 and we recently got married because he was diagnosed with cancer. I gave up my job to take care of him.
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My mother-in-law recently died. When she was sick, my husband visited her in the hospital and was always with his half-sister.
Then I thought something strange was going on because I found a pair of her panties in his weekend bag.
His excuse was that her dog kept running around with her underwear, so they ended up in his bag.
His story did not wash. I asked if she was cheating, but he denied it. So I told him that he was forbidden from being with her.
But as his mother’s illness progressed, his half-sister stayed in touch. Now she’s dead and he has to go to her house to sort it out.
We both agreed he should go, but then I saw a series of WhatsApp messages from his stepsister and they were so disgusting I wanted to throw up.
She is a nasty piece of work. She is only interested in money, but he doesn’t see that.
I want to leave him, but how when he doesn’t have long to live?
DEIDRE SAYS: Now that you’ve seen the messages, he can hardly deny the affair.
Maybe he’s ashamed because she’s family, even though they’re not related by blood.
If you still love him, tell him it’s game over and he needs to be honest and decide who he wants.
If it’s you, he’ll have to crawl and crawl to regain your trust. Remember, you married him to ensure your financial stability in the event of his death.
If, as you suspect, she is after his money, make sure you are protected. Ask for advice from Rights of Women (rightsofwomen.org.uk/, tel: 020 7251 6577).
This is a free family law advice line that advises women affected by any change in their domestic situation, including abuse, divorce or financial issues.
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