DEAR DEIDRE: My wife left me for my daughter’s piano teacher.
Even worse, she flaunted the affair to my face, telling me that he knew exactly what to do with his hands!
I am 47 and she is 43. Our daughter is 10 years old.
Three years ago, we agreed that our daughter, who showed a certain musical talent, should start piano lessons.
We bought a piano and I found a teacher through a local bulletin board.
He was in his early 30s. I guess you could call him handsome.
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He seemed to be a good teacher and our daughter liked him.
In the beginning, my wife and I took turns taking our daughter there.
But over the past year, she has continued to insist on pick-up and drop-off, saying it’s easier and she can pop into the supermarket while she waits.
I didn’t think about it.
Then, one day, our daughter was sick so we canceled the class.
But my wife said she still had to go to the supermarket, so she left at the same time as usual.
Now I know it was to see the piano teacher. That night, instead of teaching my daughter, he had sex with my wife.
Around the same time, she stopped wanting sex with me, blaming it on fatigue.
She started going out with friends often in the evening and suddenly had to run errands.
I became suspicious and confronted her. She admitted that she had an affair, but amazingly, she wasn’t ashamed or sorry.
Instead, she said that our sex life had been rubbish for years, that I was old and boring, and that the piano teacher, unlike me, was very good with his hands.
Now she has left me, taking our daughter with her. I don’t want her back, but I feel humiliated, angry and desperate.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your wife’s behavior is selfish and cruel.
If she was unhappy with your marriage or sex life, she should have talked to you about it, not shoved her affair in your face.
The most important thing now is to make sure that your daughter is not involved in the consequences of your separation.
Check out my two support packages, Thinking Of Divorce and When Parents Fall Out, which will help you navigate the divorce process and explain where you can go for advice.
Try to keep talking and make arrangements to spend time with your daughter regularly.
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