DEAR DEIDRE: I have a love/hate relationship with my wife because she is constantly looking for her next sexual partner.
She never hid that she had a high libido. That’s one of the things I love about her.
Before we had kids, we enjoyed a few threesomes and tried a little voyeurism, but when she got pregnant things changed for me — I didn’t want to see the mother of my child beating other people.
I am a 37-year-old man, and she is 35. We have been together for ten years and have two children. I know my wife has cheated on me with other men and recently I caught her making out with a friend.
Anyone with a pulse seems to be fair game for her.
They often visit friends when I’m away, saying she needs some grown-up company after the kids go to bed.
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At first I thought they were just hooking up, but now I know she had sex with them.
I suspected she was unfaithful when I saw her tagged in pictures on Facebook where she looked very comfortable with people on nights out.
A friend told me he saw her making out with two different guys on the same night.
Last Friday, a friend stayed with her. When I returned earlier, they were so flushed that it was clear I had interrupted them on the sofa.
I realized that he keeps cheating on me and I feel like a big fool for not seeing it.
Should I put up with it and wait for the kids to grow up or leave now? Why am I not enough?
DEIDRE SAYS: Sex addicts enjoy all kinds of cheap thrills, often at the expense of their partners.
This tension between you will be harmful to your children as well.
Find a time when the kids aren’t around and tell her you need to talk. Explain that you know what’s going on and make it clear that you will no longer accept this.
Arrange to see a counselor through tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1975), which offers online appointments.
If he wants to save your marriage, he needs to remove the causes of his addiction and try to change.
But she will certainly need support and talking with you to a counselor would be a good start. My Sex Addictions Support Package explains more.
Categories: Optical Illusion
Source: HIS Education