SHE was the sex guru we’ll be forever grateful to – after helping the nation have more fun in the bedroom.
At the height of her fame in the 1990s, Wendy-Ann Paige was a millionaire and would be mobbed if she walked down the street.
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Sex guru Wendy-Ann Paige – pictured here with her former partner Tony Duffield – was so famous she would be mobbed if she walked down the streetCredit: News Group Newspapers Ltd
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Wendy-Ann died at her flat in Essex last Friday aged 61 Credit: Olivia West
But she died at her flat in Essex last Friday aged 61, having spent her final years as a “hermit”, following battles with depression and PTSD and a £70,000-a-year cocaine habit.
Wendy rose to fame when she became the face of the groundbreaking sex education video, The Lovers’ Guide, in 1991.
It was so graphic that it was 18-rated and featured Wendy experiencing real orgasms during sex with her then-partner Tony Duffield, and a graphic scene of a male model masturbating.
The video shot up the charts, beating Disney’s The Little Mermaid and Bruce Willis’ action film Die Hard to the top spot.
At the age of 28, Wendy was thrust into the limelight and signed contracts with a publicist and five sex experts.
She wrote the bestseller Sextrology in 1994, a guide to finding the ideal sex partner through astrology, became a newspaper astrologer and joined The Sun as our sex columnist.
Wendy recalled, “I would take calls from readers and the phone lines would never stop.”
Despite her success, Wendy reportedly lived on just £6 a day in recent years.
Police were called to her small flat in Southend, where she was found unresponsive on December 13.
The man who ended up knowing Wendy best was her partner, Christian Bines, 50.
The Lover’s Guide was the first explicit video to be certified 18 – as opposed to X-rated
“I just woke up and she was dead.” Christian said devastated.
“She didn’t want to move and already left. I called 999 immediately.
“They think she overdosed on pills at night.
“I remember the night before when she said she was no longer in pain.
“She has been in agony since she fell down the stairs while going to the cinema in October last year.
“The accident left her with a slipped disc in her back, a broken collarbone and a broken arm, from which she never recovered.”
In 1989, Wendy was working as a marketing director when she met Tony, then 36, a sound engineer for the band Madness.
He visited the office to see a friend who worked there.
Wendy caught his eye and the pair bonded as he repaired her filing cabinet.
He was married with a child at the time, but he “relentlessly pursued” Wendy.
She previously told The Sun: “I gave in eventually. Tony and his ex-wife were swingers and placed an ad in a swinger magazine for ‘real people’ to appear in a sex education video.
“He left his wife for me and asked me if I wanted to do it for him.”
Wendy recalled how video expert doctor Andrew Stanway asked her to go to his house and masturbate in front of him for her audition.
There were 35 male film crew in the room and cameras everywhere. There was only one woman. After I finished I said, ‘Can I do that again?’
Wendy
She said: “I wasn’t nervous, I was natural. I had a lot of fun and after I had an orgasm he said: ‘You’re hired!'”
Wendy filmed all of her X-rated scenes at a film studio in Acton, West London.
She explained: “There were 35 male crew members in the room and cameras everywhere, only one woman. After I finished, I said, ‘Can I do that again?’ .”
After her first session, Simon told the cameramen, “Stop everything! From tomorrow we all wear baggy chinos to work.
“Wendy, you can have a two hour break because we’re all going to the bathroom for a joint.”
Wendy, whose mother Daisy died of ovarian cancer when she was just 19, did not tell her soldier dad William about the video.
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Tony Duffield and Wendy starred in X-rated The Lovers’ Guide Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd
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Wendy and Tony in a scene from The Lover’s Guide
She said: “Even though he was shocked, he was very proud of me and even watched the video after the reporter had left, which was very embarrassing indeed.
“He was a wonderful, gentle man, but he would never do something like that.
“My mom was sociable. She would love that. I was sad that she never saw it.”
After publication, Wendy would be approached by men in the supermarket asking for sex advice with questions such as: “My wife won’t wear heels in bed, is she sensible?”
Sex with Tony was like going on a bus operator’s vacation. I was bored. I wanted more adventurous sex. I was more comfortable doing cocaine than having sex with Tony
Wendy
She married Tony in Las Vegas in 1992 and they moved into an 18-bedroom house worth a million pounds in East Sussex.
But their marriage began to suffer because, she claimed, Tony was jealous of her fame and could not “keep up” with her in the bedroom.
Wendy said: “Sex with Tony was like going on a bus holiday. I was bored.
“I wanted adventurous sex. I loved sex and had a great appetite for it. Tony had a heart bypass, he couldn’t keep up with me and he was just lying on his back.”
Wendy got a taste for cocaine and traveled all over the world to party with rock stars.
She said: “I was more comfortable using cocaine than having sex with Tony.
“At one point I was spending £70,000 a year on it – that’s not including the drugs I was given by the rock stars.”
Wendy and Tony tried to rekindle their relationship by moving to Thailand in 1999 to open a restaurant, but split the following year.
In The Sun in 2001, she revealed her new fiancé Dave Smart, an electrician, whom she met in hospital while he was being treated for depression.
Speaking to The Sun in 2021 to celebrate the 30th anniversary of The Lovers’ Guide, Wendy said of the single at the time: “My life is very different now. I miss my old life.
“Things have changed a lot and people don’t recognize me anymore.”
‘Imagine going from all that to where she ended up’
She added: “It was important for me to make The Lovers’ Guide.
“I believed in the message behind it and I think it’s still relevant today.
“I’ve met men who thought women could have oral sex for an hour without any pain.”
After news of her death emerged, Essex Police confirmed they were alerted by the East of England Ambulance Service Trust at around midday on Friday.
A spokesman said the death was being treated as “unexpected and unexplained”.
Poignantly describing Wendy’s final years, Christian said: “She was on benefits. When we first met, neither of us had anything. We were poor, living on £6 a day.
“She lived a very simple life. She would even run out of basic food, some days she wouldn’t even eat.
“She went from so much money to nothing. She was such a sweet person. Imagine going from all that to where she ended up.
“We just went through it together, but it was very difficult.
“There was never any heating, it became very difficult to pay the bills she had. Amazing isn’t it?
“She went from a millionaire to £6 a day. She had a taste of that lifestyle and had to come to terms with it.
“We went to a charity shop and she loved it.
“She would get a dress and a few more videotapes for her player.”
A subdued end for a woman who brought joy to many.
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Wendy married Tony in Las Vegas in 1992. Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd
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The star had five sex expert book deals. Credits: Delivered
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Wendy in The Sun in 2001 with new fiance Dave Credits: Delivered
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Wendy and Tony rose to fame illustrating their sexual techniques to magazine and video audiences Credit: People In Pictures
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Wendy and Tony on The Lovers’ Guide sex video from 1994. Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd
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Wendy’s book SextrologyCredit: Amazon
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Tony and Wendy made a fortune after starring in sex videos together
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A couple on the set of a movie in 1994. Credit: Rex
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