Teddi Mellencamp Says She and Ex Edwin Arroyave Are 'Completely Happy to Be Around One Another' Despite Divorce

Teddi Mellencamp is speaking out about her situation with estranged husband Edwin Arroyave after she filed for divorce last month.

In the first episode of her new podcast Uncut diamonds with her ex The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Costa Erika Girardi, Mellencamp, 43, said that despite her and Arroyave’s divorce, marrying him and having children together was “one of the best things that [she’s] ever done.”

The reality star revealed that their three children, Slate, 12, Cruz, 10, and Dove, 4, know the former couple are now separated and getting a divorce. November 1 RHOBH The alum filed for divorce from Arroyava after 13 years of marriage and cited irreconcilable differences as the reason for their separation, according to court documents obtained by PEOPLE.

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Mellencamp said during Uncut diamonds podcast that she and Arroyave, 47, both take turns leaving the house “when the other one comes in and is asleep.” She added that she stays at Kyle Richards’ home when Arroyave stays with their children.

However, the television personality insisted that there was no ill will between her and Arroyave, adding that “they can both be there like at sporting events.” She explained: “It’s not like we can’t. We’re completely happy to be by each other’s side.”

Mellencamp explained that her “way through” the divorce is that she “doesn’t want to shift the blame.” However, she admitted that there will be times when she feels “angry, hurt or upset” and that she goes through “ups and downs”.

She added that she will grieve through this process, “or maybe I’ll fall in love again. I don’t know.” Noting that he doesn’t want to “get to a place where [she feels] bitter.”

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(L) Edwin Arroyave and Teddy Mellencamp.

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Mellencamp also reflected on how the divorce of her parents, John Mellencamp and Victoria Granucci, is shaping the way she wants to deal with her own divorce. “There was so much backbiting,” she said of her parents, who married in 1981 and divorced in 1989. “It was also about pleasing them.”

She added that even 35 years after their divorce, she still tells her parents, “Please don’t call me by another person’s name,” before noting that the couple don’t use labels as a “compliment.”

“There’s a level of like, should I feel ashamed to be a part of my parents?” Adding that “whenever they were screwing each other, I’d say, ‘You guys decided to get married and have kids.'”

Mellencamp added that she and her siblings were aware of their parents’ “unhappy” mood because “we weren’t stupid.” As a result, she “doesn’t stress” her own mood during the divorce because “kids are very smart” and aware of their parents’ mindsets.

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On Nov. 2, Mellencamp announced that she and Arroyave were separating in an Instagram post and emphasized the importance of putting children first during the transition.

“After much consideration and consideration, I have made the difficult decision to file for divorce,” the reality star wrote in her statement. “My priority is my children and ensuring their privacy and well-being during this new chapter.”

“A public statement was not something I wanted to do,” she added, “but in an effort to protect my family from unnecessary speculation and rumors, I felt that being open, honest and vulnerable was the best way forward.”

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Edwin Arroyave and Teddi Mellencamp with their children.

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The day before the announcement, Mellencamp filed for divorce. According to a court filing obtained by PEOPLE at the time, Mellencamp set the separation date as Oct. 20 and asked for spousal support and primary legal and physical custody of their three children with “reasonable and frequent” visitation from Arroyave, with him being responsible for all attorneys’ fees and costs.

A week after her filing, Arroyave responded to her request and asked the court to grant the former couple joint custody and block Mellencamp’s ability to receive spousal support, but grant him the same support. He further cited their prenuptial agreement, saying, “The parties’ prenuptial agreement sets forth terms relating to the amount and duration of spousal support to be paid.”

Despite their split, Arroyave revealed his episode on November 26 The Eds podcast that he and Mellencamp still planned to spend Thanksgiving together as a family.

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