Tony Goldwyn Shares 'Big Ingredient' That Makes His 37-Year Marriage Work (Exclusive)

Tony Goldwyn says the “big ingredient” in his 37-year marriage to his wife, designer Jane Musky, is “respect”.

“I married a person I deeply respect, both for her professional gifts and for her humanity and character,” the 64-year-old actor and director told PEOPLE.

“I’m always kind of in awe of who she is as a person,” he continues of Musky, 70. “That’s why our relationship is always interesting to me. She is always interesting to me.”

“If I could be arrogant enough to offer anyone any advice, it would be to love the person as they are. Because I think the trap we fall into is that we have some fantasy or ideal of what we think a person should be,” he adds. Scandal alum. “What I’ve learned in marriage is to marry multiple people because we all evolve as we grow.”

Tony Goldwyn and Jane Musky in 2003.

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“I’ve come to really appreciate and love Jane for who she is, and she does the same for me, my flaws and my strengths. It’s been a wonderful discovery for me,” he says.

Goldwyn previously told PEOPLE that he met his future wife at the Williamstown Theater Festival in Massachusetts in 1981. “I felt that I would never find someone like Jane again,” he said in a 1990 article.

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“Jane was as ambitious as I was, and yet we were a match,” he added at the time. “Her ambition encouraged me and never threatened me. We fed each other.”

Musky built a successful career in Hollywood as a production designer on films such as 1987 Raising Arizona and in the 1989s When Harry met Sally.

When she got a role in the Demi Moore-Patrick Swayze romantic drama The ghost, she encouraged Goldwyn—who was then her husband—to pursue the role of the film’s villain, Carl. He got the job.

Tony Goldwyn and his daughters in 2015.

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In the years since, Goldwyn and Musky, who are parents to daughters Anna, 34, and Tess, 29, have only worked together a handful of times.

“I tried to get her to design my films. But as parents, when our kids were growing up, it just didn’t make sense,” he says, before joking, “Maybe one day they’ll say yes.”

Goldwyn is in the midst of a career streak hotter than one of his troubled careers Scandal sex scenes. After playing tennis coach in 2021 King Richard and imposing lawyer Gordon Gray in the Oscar-winning film 2023 Oppenheimerjoined the NBC stalwart Law and order as driven district attorney Nicholas Baxter (taking over from Sam Waterston, who left the series) and guest starring in the comedy series Max Hacks.

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And in his new film Ezrawho also directed, stars alongside Oscar winner Robert De Niro and his ex The ghost actress Whoopi Goldberg. “I was so busy,” Goldwyn says.

However, he only deals with projects that interest him and his family is always his priority. “Honestly, it’s a cliché,” he says, “but I feel kind of blessed.”

Ezra it’s in theaters on May 31.

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