Golden Bachelorette Joan Dumps 3 Men Ahead of Hometowns, Telling 1 She 'Didn’t See Me in Our Conversations'

Before deciding which dudes to take to her hometown, Golden Bachelorette Joan Vassos sent three men home solo.

Joan, 61, began the episode on October 16 The Golden Bachelor talking to ex-Bachelor Trista Sutter about getting ready for hometown.

“I have to open up more, but it’s hard when you have more than one person you have feelings for,” Joan said. “It seems very strange and surprising to me. I didn’t think that would happen.”

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The private school headmaster also told Trista, 51, that he made sure “my heart will always belong” to her late husband John.

“He’ll be happy for you if you’re happy,” Trista assured him.

FIRST ONE ON ONE

Joan hopped in a helicopter with Keith and headed to the vineyard for a wine tasting for their one-on-one date. After drinking some rosé, the 62-year-old told Joan about his ex-wife’s battle with addiction.

“We tried everything, rehab,” Keith said. “The only cure for addiction is your own inner self. I just had to separate my daughters from it and it hurt, you know, at the time. We haven’t spoken to her in 10, 12 years.”

Contestant ‘The Golden Bachelor’ Joan.

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Joan appreciated Keith’s openness with her. “I know it’s really scary to be vulnerable,” she told him.

In an on-camera interview, Joan said she and Keith “have a good, easy relationship”. She continued: “It’s not all laughs and fun and games, and that’s changed a lot for me now.”

Keith said that if Joan brought him to his hometown, it would be a “backyard barbecue.”

“It’s been a good day, thank you very much,” Joan told Keith as they sipped champagne and nibbled on the charcuterie board.

Joan decided she didn’t want to hand out roses before the rose ceremony this week, so Keith left the date without a rose.

GROUP DATE

Guy, Jordan, Jonathan, Pascal and Chock went on the last group date of the season. Joan took the men to a bowling alley that she said “would be a place my family would come to.”

Joan hit on the first try. “This woman has game,” Guy, 66, said.

Jonathan, 61, felt a “competition in the air” as Chock, 60, cuddled up to Joan.

“I’m crazy about her and I want to be with her every moment and I don’t care what they think, they do. That’s their business,” Chock told the cameras. “I’m just worried about Joan and myself.”

The Golden Bachelor Joan Vassos with Chock.

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Jonathan showed Joan photos of himself as a child, including when he started wearing an afro. He also shared pictures of his children with Joan. “They are my little pride and joy,” the shipping consultant told her.

Joan told Jonathan, “I think you’re an amazing human being, honestly.”

The mother-of-four spent more time with Chock, telling him she was looking forward to “being a couple again”. The insurance executive agreed that they both deserved a second chance at love.

“I didn’t think so for a while,” Joan told Chock. “I thought it was selfish, like you can’t do this twice in your life. And at this age he should be supporting his family and trying to start another life is not like what we are allowed to do or what we should be doing.”

Chock said he sees a “beautiful future” for himself and Joan, as does she. “I absolutely see a future with you and I think it’s been obvious for a while,” Joan said.

ANOTHER ONE ON ONE

Mark landed the last one-on-one after telling the other guys he got a sign from his late wife Denise in the form of a hummingbird. “It’s like she’s there saying, ‘That’s right,'” Mark, 57, told the men.

Before the date, Mark told the cameras: “I haven’t felt this good in six and a half years. And I feel like I’ve never been more ready in my life. I’m ready to go deep.”

Joan felt that while Mark “checks so many boxes” for her, she doesn’t feel like she’s “got there yet” with the military veteran.

“He’s just quiet,” Joan told the cameras. “It is very mild. We are kind of formal, almost, with each other.”

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For their date, Joan and Mark set sail on a yacht and sipped champagne before embarking on a scavenger hunt prepared by host Jesse Palmer. The scavenger hunt began with Joan and Mark retrieving a message in a bottle from the ocean. The message instructed the couple to play a game of Never Have I Ever.

Joan said she had never seen the northern lights, while Mark made it clear he took a seat in daughter Kelsey Anderson’s childhood days, saying: “I never woke up at night to feed the baby.”

Joan and Mark continued to talk about where they saw their lives going, and Mark shared details about his final days with his wife. “We really have to enjoy life,” he said. “We really had to see how many things we could do and we ran out of time. It was, you know, not easy.”

Mark told Joan about the first time Denise came to him as a hummingbird while driving through the Mexican countryside.

While Mark called the date “the best single day I’ve ever been to California,” Joan opined, “There still seems to be something missing.”

The Golden Bachelor Joan Vassos with Mark.

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The next day, Joan went to see Mark at the villa. “I felt like we connected in such an important way with you being so comfortable and I felt so supported,” Joan told Mark. “You are such an amazing man. And all those things made me want us to be really good. But I went home last night and I kept thinking, I just don’t know what’s missing. Something wrong. I couldn’t sleep all night.”

When Joan woke up in the morning, she felt like she had a clue.

“I feel like you’ve grown so much personally and your heart is mending, but I didn’t see myself in our conversations when we talked and I didn’t feel like I was imagining us,” she continued. “Like, I just got into this a little too soon for you and I didn’t want to go to the rose ceremony with you when it comes to hometowns without talking to you first. I need someone who is as far along in their journey as I am.”

Mark took the break well. “My experience here has changed me,” he said, adding that “I’m leaving here, I know, a better human being.”

Joan apologized to Mark before he left. “Talking to Mark was the hardest thing I’ve ever done,” she said in an on-camera interview. “We really had a relationship. It was intimate, it was real. It just didn’t seem like we were in the same place yet. It just breaks my heart.”

ROSE CEREMONY

Joan began the rose ceremony by telling the men that she had sent Mark home. She then gave roses to Pascal, Chock, Guy, and Jordan, which meant Keith and Jonathan would be leaving as well.

“It breaks my heart,” Joan told the cameras. “I hate doing this.”

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Joan saw Jonathan off and told him, “I’ll always remember how you came in so open-hearted and so vulnerable and you helped me be that way, too.”

Jonathan felt that Joan had also made an impact on him. “You confirmed many of the values ​​I try to be as a man and as a father,” Jonathan replied. “You see that in me and I can’t ask for anything more than that.”

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