DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband and I each had two affairs and made a pact to work out our differences—but now a nasty surprise has upended his game and I know he’s cheating again.
I’m 45, he’s 47, we have two teenage sons and we’ve always been hot.
Before we got married, I discovered that he loved me twice.
Instead of confronting him, I decided to treat him with the same disrespect and began my affair.
When the truth came out, we realized we wanted to be together and things were great for a while so we got married.
But over the years, that intense attraction we felt for each other diminished to the point where I felt particularly unloved and unwanted.
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It was so easy to slip into another affair.
This time I left my husband because I had enough of his indifference. But I began to miss him so much that I returned four months later.
I was then devastated by the rumors that he was sleeping with a woman who was a regular at our local pub.
Dear Deidre, you understand why your man stopped having sex
When I confronted him, he admitted that she “kept him company” while I was gone and that he had a hard time breaking the habit.
Amazingly, we both still wanted to fight for our marriage.
But now I’ve seen blood in his urine and I know he must have an STI and he’s still sleeping with it.
I demanded the truth, but after insisting that he didn’t even talk to her, he refuses to talk to me.
He doesn’t want to go to the GP or have sex with me, and again I feel like I’m being pushed around.
DEIDRE SAYS: Until you break this cycle of turning to others when your relationship is down, you’ll stay stuck.
Communication is key, and that doesn’t just mean talking openly with each other, it also requires listening.
Start by asking your husband how he is doing. Has he stopped talking because you’re not listening, and vice versa?
Maybe he’s telling the truth.
Some STI symptoms don’t develop for months or years, and blood in his urine may be caused by a urinary tract infection or other serious health problem.
My Support Packages Cheating – Can You Get Over It? And the Relationship MOT will help you both.
And convince your husband how important it is to see a doctor for treatment.
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