A mother seeks advice after refusing to pay her son’s girlfriend during a family holiday.
On Tuesday, December 17, a woman shared a lengthy post on Reddit asking for advice because her son and his girlfriend were “furious” with her.
“I have two sons (22 and 23). Both have serious girlfriends with whom they have been dating for more than two years. Jordan’s girlfriend is an amazing young lady. She has a great head on her shoulders, is sweet, smart, polite, good to my parents, responsible and balances perfectly with my son,” she wrote. “They’re a great team.”
But the mother of two claimed that her second son’s girlfriend has the opposite characteristics.
“Tyler’s girlfriend is selfish, entitled, manipulative and doesn’t love our family,” she said. “She scares me (and the rest of her family and friends) with her behavior.”
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The mother added that her two sons are “in love” and plan to marry the ladies, adding that she “divorced when both boys were in diapers, so it’s been three of us for years.”
“We are very close. We always traveled together,” the Reddit user continued. “Jordan’s girlfriend was with us on two trips that I paid for. Vegas for Jordan’s 21st and Charity Boat Poker on Lake Michigan. Both included bars.”
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“Tyler’s girlfriend is 20 years old so she wasn’t invited,” the woman added. “She became angry that she was not invited. We (newly married husband of two years) own a vacation home on the lake.”
She went on to say that her husband had planned a men’s trip, which made Tyler’s girlfriend angry because she wanted to use the vacation home the same week before returning to college.
“Tyler has now informed me that his girlfriend will be invited on ALL trips and I will be expected to pay for her or he won’t come,” the mom wrote. “My husband said she wasn’t welcome at the vacation home (until she stopped acting entitled).”
This year, the family planned a vacation to the Bahamas for Christmas. However, after Tyler’s ultimatum, the mother decided to cancel the trip, instead of inviting the couple. She claims this is in line with “Jordan’s request”. Instead, she says, “she upgraded my husband and I to first class and a suite.”
“Jordan thought the trip would be miserable with Tyler’s girlfriend,” she added. “He wanted me to enjoy the trip. Tyler and his girlfriend are furious. AITAH why didn’t I pay to take my future DIL on vacation?”
Responding in the comments section, many Redditors seemed to side with the mother.
One person wrote: “She’s not even family yet and she’s acting like this? LOL. You are under no obligation to fund her annual vacations, especially when she treats you and your husband so recklessly.”
“Your house, your rules, your money. Tyler’s girlfriend sounds like a walking red flag,” another added.
Others were reticent and argued that alienating the couple was not a good long-term solution. “OP needs to decide if she wants to be right or if she wants to be happy,” wrote one commenter. “If he calls everyone out and sets boundaries and doesn’t respond, Tyler will see how awful it is [the girlfriend] is. If they are excluded because [the girlfriend] shit, he’ll come to her defense and see only her good qualities.”
After reading the mom’s account, one user made a request for the other side of the story.
“I don’t think it’s possible to pass judgment without getting a third party perspective,” the commenter wrote. “Let me tell you why. You talk about your son’s girlfriend the same way my mom talks about my sister-in-law. You’d think she was the devil when she listened to my mom. Except she wasn’t at all. My mom made up her mind very early on. I didn’t feel like she liked it, so now everything she does is wrong and not only wrong, but also done on purpose.”
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