DEAR DEIDRE: A flirtatious colleague has started sending me unsolicited explicit videos of herself. I have a girlfriend so I was really shocked.
I was given the task of training this woman when she first started working in my team. She is 23 years old and seemed very eager to get stuck into the business.
I love my job, I work for a charity that supports families traumatized by crime.
I am a 36 year old man and my girlfriend is 31 years old. She was suspicious of my colleague from the start, but I always suspected her, thinking she was just being friendly.
Sometimes over the weekend he’ll text and ask me what I’m doing. If he has a day off, he’ll text me ‘Did you miss me?’ My partner would get mad about it saying, ‘She’s so inappropriate. She crosses the line.” I would tell her she was just kidding.
My colleague then bought me an expensive watch for my birthday. It was embarrassing to open it in front of everyone. I didn’t dare show it to my partner.
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My partner was asleep when the first video appeared on my phone. It was my colleague dancing in her underwear, then she took off her bra, shuffled around and blew me a kiss.
I deleted it immediately.
Since then, she has been sending nude pictures and explicit sex messages. I deleted them all.
My partner has a lot of insecurities and is convinced that I will leave her for this woman, but I don’t care at all.
My colleague is at her annual meeting this week and I haven’t heard from her. My girlfriend was like a different woman – much happier.
However, I’m afraid that my colleague will return to work and I don’t know how to deal with the situation.
DEIDRE SAYS: There will always be situations at work where you feel uncomfortable, but rather than ignore them and hope they go away, it’s much better to deal with them now.
This intern is behaving inappropriately, cyber flashing you and her behavior constitutes sexual harassment.
She needs to be told to stop. I urge you to report her to your HR department and they should take action to investigate your allegations and support you.
If she sends more inappropriate messages, you’d be wise to keep them to prove your case.
Additional support can be found through Acas (acas.org.uk, 0300 123 1100) which helps with all workplace issues.
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