DEAR DEIDRE: A FRIEND told me that my boyfriend slept with an old woman from his canteen at work. That’s disgusting!
I am a 31-year-old woman, and my partner is 32 years old. We have three small children.
I know this person from the office. She is about 60 years old and parades around the city dressed as a 20-year-old woman, wearing very little.
She has the figure for it, but she totally flirts with every man.
A friend of mine, who works for the same company as my partner, told me that there are rumors among colleagues about the two of them.
He’s been hesitant lately, but I put it down to fatigue because he’s been working long hours.
Our sex life is not so good and he doesn’t even want to cuddle me in bed like he used to.
He came late from the office and went straight upstairs to take a shower.
I didn’t talk to him about any of this because I thought the change in his behavior was due to his stressful job. A few weeks ago, I confided in my friend that I was worried that he might be cheating on me.
First she said I was funny. Then she called me a few days later and asked if she could come to my place.
She said she didn’t know how to tell me but she heard that one of the assistants had caught my partner passionately kissing that older woman.
I don’t know what to do.
Dear Deidre: Cheating and can you get over it
Part of me wants him to stay so we can keep our family together. But another part of me is afraid to know the truth.
If it’s true, I feel disgusted with him. Am I that unattractive?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You can’t keep this news to yourself.
Although you do not know this to be true, his behavior towards you suggests that he is distracted.
Find a quiet moment to tell him you heard he’s being unfaithful and listen carefully to what he has to say.
If he admits it, then my support package called Cheating – Can You Get Over It? it will help you understand where to go next.
Whatever you decide, you will need counseling so you can talk in a safe forum, away from children.
You can find support through the British Association for Counseling and Psychotherapy (bacp.co.uk, 01455 883 300).
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