Scheana Shay Has Put Tom Sandoval 'in His Place' but Admits She's Faced an 'Inner Struggle' with Her Loyalty

The ‘Vanderpump Rules’ star revealed that she confronted her crush in his hotel room during his BravoCon afterparty, accusing him of “picking scabs” months after his split with Ariana Madix

Scheana Shay gets candid about managing the awkward dynamic between them Vanderpump Rules castmates after Tom Sandoval’s cheating scandal.

In the latest episode Bravo’s Hot Mic podcast, Shay, 38, revealed she was forced to put Sandoval, 41, “in his place” at BravoCon last month because she was fed up with him continuing to publicly talk about his ex, Ariana Madix.

She explained to host Alex Baskin that she pulled Sandoval aside during a party in his hotel room after the first day of the fan convention and took him to task for some unkind things he said about Madix — who is Shay’s best friend — on the red carpet. earlier that day.

“I said, ‘I don’t care if you say she did it. You deserved what happened to you. I don’t like that you keep bringing things up. You keep picking at the scab. I need you to let her heal. Stop talking about her.’ “, she recounted their conversation.

“Talk about your band, talk about it Special forces, talk about anything else in your life, but let her go.’ And I literally put him in his place,” she continued.

Vanderpump Rules’ Scheana Shay admits she ‘struggled’ to break up with Tom Sandoval after affair with Raquel Leviss

Tom Sandoval and Scheana Shay in ‘Vanderpump Rules’.

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Elsewhere in their conversation, Shay opened up about the “internal struggle” she faced as she and her co-stars got back together to film the upcoming new season Vanderpump Rules.

“It’s an ensemble. It’s not just Tom and Ariana,” she said, referring to the spotlight that has been on the two exes since news of the scandal broke in March. “But I feel like this season that we just shot was trying to figure that out. For me, personally, trying to see, you know, do I stay on Team Ariana and say k…Tom forever? Do I try and work towards a path of forgiveness for me personally? Am I trying to be his friend again? Is that being disloyal to her?”

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She continued, “It’s been this whole internal struggle throughout the season where I’m like, I have things to do so I can sleep at night. So I can be the mother I am now.”

Shay continued to get emotional, fighting back tears, as she spoke about the toll the cheating scandal has taken on her personally.

“It was so hard and I don’t know if Ariana will ever understand how hard this was for me. Yeah, it didn’t happen to me — I wasn’t cheated on. But there was a lot that he did to me personally,” she said of Sandoval. “I’m someone who always tries to go down the path of forgiveness because that’s who I am. So it was hard trying to stay loyal while putting myself first.”

From left: Scheana Shay, Ariana Madix and Tom Sandoval. Tommy Garcia/Bravo (3)

Shay pointed out that apart from Madix (38), she is the person most affected by the scandal among them VPR group. “But I can’t feel anything because it’s not about me, it’s all about her,” she explained of Madix. “I feel like this is the first season where I have to do what’s best for me first and I hope everyone understands.”

“I mean, I lost weight after this scandal, I was in court after this scandal, I was fighting rumors on the Internet about my own husband after this scandal,” she added. “He really did something to me that I don’t think a lot of people realize.”

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Shay previously opened up about her complex feelings for Sandoval in the September episode about her Scheananigans podcast. “I never thought he was a bad guy,” she said at the time. “He was one of my best friends for almost 15 years. He was the only person who had my back on this show, who fought for me whenever something wasn’t fair and he was the person in my corner.”

“I personally struggled a lot with all of this because I said, ‘Yeah, you did a really bad thing. But you weren’t a bad friend to me. But what you did affected me, so it changed the whole dynamic of our group,’ she continued.

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