Selena Gomez has a message for her critics: vulnerability is no shame.
In an impassioned speech at a recent event, the actress and singer, 32, spoke about her decision to speak openly about her inability to carry children and her mental health issues – and told haters to “f*ck you off”.
“I truly believe there is power in being vulnerable and telling people when you need help, when you want help,” Gomez said as her younger sister Gracie Elliott Teefey sat next to her, footage from the event showed.
“It’s not a shame. Well, yes, I said I can’t carry a child. Yes, I said I have bipolar disorder. F— off. That’s my life,” she added while the others present clapped in agreement.
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Selena Gomez with her half-sister Gracie Elliot Teefey.
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Gomez went on to say that she wants to “advocate for women, and that’s why I’m sharing it. That’s why I like to be honest – because everyone goes through something.”
“I don’t have it all together. … I am me. And that’s all I can be,” she continued, before addressing someone off-screen, saying, “So don’t ever let anyone tell you that you’re not a good person, that you’re not kind, that you don’t treat people with respect. ”
Returning to the vulnerability, Gomez said, “Because that’s not pathetic, that’s great of you.”
“And that’s a fact,” she concluded. “So screw anyone who tells you that you’re a victim. You’re a survivor in my book.”
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The Just the murders in the building star’s speech comes shortly after she revealed in Vanity FairTo the October number that she cannot carry her own children.
“I never said this … but unfortunately I can’t carry my own children,” Gomez told the magazine.
“I have a lot of medical issues that would threaten my life and the baby’s life,” she explained further, adding that “it was something I had to grieve over for a while.”
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Selena Gomez.
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The actress — who previously opened up about complications with lupus and revealed her bipolar diagnosis in April 2020 — also said Vanity Fair that he is in a “much better place” with it.
“I consider it a blessing that there are wonderful people who are willing to do surrogacy or adoption, both of which are great opportunities for me,” she explained.
“It made me really grateful for other outlets for people who are dying to be moms. I’m one of those people,” Gomez continued. “I’m excited about what that trip is going to look like, but it’s going to look a little different. At the end of the day, I don’t care. It will be mine. It will be my child.”
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