Girlfriend Angry After Boyfriend Agrees to Split Chores 50/50, Then Hires Housekeeper to Handle His Half

• The original poster (OP) agreed to split household chores 50/50 despite splitting expenses 75/25 with his girlfriend
• OP hired a housekeeper to do only his chores, upsetting his girlfriend who thinks it’s unfair
• Commenters feel that the OP had the right to do what he did because his girlfriend especially likes how he cleans

Sharing household chores can be a tricky topic to deal with in any relationship. One man’s approach sparked a backlash from his girlfriend, prompting him to ask Reddit if he was wrong.

On the AmITheA—— subreddit, one user shared a story about how he handled splitting jobs with his girlfriend after she moved in. The original poster (OP) used some creative solutions that his partner wasn’t too happy with.

“My girlfriend moved into my house 6 months ago,” he explained. “Despite me paying 3/4 of the rent (she’s a student), we still agreed to split the housework 50/50.”

The OP explained that his girlfriend “doesn’t have OCD, but sometimes she can be borderline when it comes to cleaning; everything has to be done her way.”

“I cleaned the kitchen and there was dust on top of the fridge? Now I didn’t clean properly and I’m just doing things the wrong way so I can get away with not cleaning properly. I’m doing laundry and I miss-matched some socks that look similar? I’m just trying to be intentional boring,” he shared as examples.

“Since she was not satisfied with my cleaning and it was a constant problem, I decided to hire a professional cleaner who would come once a week and do all the tasks assigned to me: clean the bathroom, living room, kitchen, windows, laundry, etc.”

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The OP thought that would solve the problem and notes that even though she gets outside help, “that doesn’t mean I don’t do anything around the house.”

“I’m still taking out the trash and doing the dishes if the cleaner doesn’t come for the next three days. I’m also going to do some manual labor that is occasionally needed that my girlfriend doesn’t know about,” he wrote.

The OP’s girlfriend agreed to the arrangement for five months before complaining that it was “not fair because while she cleans and uses her free time to do her chores, I just sit on the computer and play games.”

“I told her that her affairs were her own responsibility and we agreed to split 50/50, I just transferred my work to another person,” he said.

“She told me that being in a relationship is about helping each other and not being petty about things. I told her that she should have applied the same mindset when I was running errands by myself, and she was complaining all the time,” he concluded. , asking Redditors to weigh in on whether he was wrong.

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Many in the responses felt that the OP was not wrong to handle the situation in his own home as he saw fit.

“You’re still helping. You’re PAYING someone to do 50% of your housework to a higher standard to please her. You’re doing exactly what she stated there,” one commenter reasoned, adding: “The REAL problem now is that she’s jealous that she doesn’t she can outsource her chores to a professional. I think she expects you to pay the cleaner to do 50% of her chores as well.”

Another commenter wrote: “You are responsible for getting half the tasks done, and you agreed to meet those expectations. She shouldn’t be upset about how they were done. ‘She told me she’s in a relationship that helps each other.’ she has a hard time ‘helping’ with a quarter of the bills and complains when you clean things yourself. She seems to be a lot to deal with.”

However, several commentators pointed to a bigger problem – communication between the new cohabiting couple.

“You are both in a combative mood about cleaning. The best solution would be for you to hire a cleaner together to do all the work,” they suggested.

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