A man told why he won’t be going to his sister’s house for Thanksgiving this year.
In a now-viral Reddit post, the 35-year-old explains that he and his wife usually alternate which family they spend Thanksgiving with, and this year it’s their turn to be by his side. While his parents are usually the hosts, this year his 29-year-old sister and her husband offered to take over the job.
However, after his parents’ consent, he decided to decline the invitation — because of his sister’s pets.
“My sister loves animals, well…I don’t. I rarely go to her place, and when I do, it’s without my wife and kids,” he wrote on Reddit. “I find the fact that she lets her cats in the kitchen and on the counter really freaking gross. Her dog is super gross, not very well behaved. He’ll jump on you and stuff like that. I wouldn’t. I’m not saying it’s dangerous, just annoying. ”
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The man adds that when he first heard the news that his sister would be hosting the dinner this year, he discussed it with his wife and the two decided to go to her family instead. After that, he let his parents know, to which they said that he “exaggerated”.
“They love her dogs so I think they have a skewed view,” he says. “The news reached my sister and she was not happy. I told her that we would come if the animals stayed in the other room (and didn’t come out at all) and that I could clean the kitchen.”
“She said I could clean whatever I wanted, but that was a disrespectful request to her family,” she adds. “I told her that her pets are not family to me and that I don’t want to spend time with them. I left with the decision not to go to my sister’s, but my sister and parents are bothered by my decision.”
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Since sharing the situation on Reddit, the man’s post has gone viral, garnering more than 1,000 likes and comments. Many people joined the conversation and added their thoughts on how he should have handled things.
“You’re allowed to decline an invitation. Period, they asked you for the reason you gave and they didn’t like it. Oh well,” one person wrote. “You’re allowed to have feelings and opinions, and they’re allowed to not like you.”
“Cats on the kitchen counter? Total gross. Why can’t your family embrace basic home hygiene and dog training. Hang in there,” added another user.
Someone else chimes in: “You have every right to turn down an offer to have dinner at someone’s home you find disgusting! As for everyone getting mad about the offer to clean…..that’s his sister for good, not some stranger. You are not responsible for their feelings, acknowledge them, forgive them for making you feel that way, and enjoy Thanksgiving with your in-laws.”
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