Sister Wives: How Kody’s ‘Soul Mate’ Connection with Robyn Led to His Family’s ‘Unraveling’

Neither Kody Brown nor his family could have predicted how his current romantic relationship with fourth wife Robyn Brown would change the trajectory of the future.

During Sunday Sister wives: one on one Notably, the Brown family patriarch said he doesn’t think he’s “hit rock bottom” despite having ongoing anger issues amid the “disintegration” of his family unit.

“Something about the struggles in the family just made me leave, Is that real life? Is it a real marriage? Is that so?” he told host Sukanya “Suki” Krishnan. “I’ve been thinking about this. Like, everything I’m doing when I’m not working, it’s on my mind,” he continued. “It’s going on and on and on and on and on and on and on and I’m going back and thinking about my life and how I started this family and everything.”

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Kody, 54, lost his wives Christine Brown, Janelle Brown and Meri Brown within a span of 14 months. Now he remains only married to Robyn (45).

Reflecting on his experience with polygamy as a whole, Kody said, “I was so eager to live by the principle of plural marriage that I didn’t check who I was marrying to be compatible with me.”

“The blame lies on one thing and one thing only. If you’re going to get married and you’re going to get married forever, you should start in love,” he explained. “I thought it was acceptable. I thought I could make up the difference. I meant [about] all in this situation with all three women, ‘This isn’t about us being, like, in love. This is about family growth together.'”

But Kody noted that “the gospel requires us to love one another,” even though he “never really suffered in a fit of passion in this place.” He then claimed that he had a very different dynamic with Robyn compared to his other wives. “I fell in love with Robyn. I never fell in love with anyone else. I just chose to be in that union of love with them,” he said, despite now-ex Janelle, 54, and Robyn claiming otherwise while speaking to the host separately.

Kody Brown is shown discussing ‘Sister Wives’ on ‘Good Morning America’ on September 21, 2011.

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“He’s grown and changed, and I’ve grown and changed, and I think maybe he has more of an affinity or more of a connection with Robyn, and that’s okay,” Janelle said. “But I think it’s unfair to judge our early years from the same perspective because he wasn’t the guy he is now.”

Janelle added, “I don’t think we had that much passion, and maybe Robyn is his big passion. I don’t know. But what we had was good.”

According to Kody, “There was a safety and a vulnerability that I had never experienced in my life. I met her and I started crying with happiness and I didn’t stop for months.”

“Let’s just say the two of us clicked, while I worked with these others for years to get them to get this position,” he claimed. “I didn’t click.”

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While Robyn separately reacted to Kody’s claims that he loves her and not his other three wives, she said she “didn’t know that until recently.” But she was also skeptical of these proposals. “It still makes me wonder because I wonder if it’s just rewriting history, since there seems to be a lot of it,” she said.

Robyn also commented on the challenges of hiding her successful romance with Kody from the other wives.

“I did my best. I don’t know what else I should have done, but I did my best to make it not something that was painful for them,” she said. “I was constantly withholding and hiding my relationship in any relationship I had with Kody.”

Within the moment Kody Brown declared himself and Robyn the ‘mutual enemy’ of his sisters

But the wives were still aware of Kody’s stronger feelings for Robyn. Christine, 51, even recalled the “miserable day” she realized Kody had fallen for Robyn — and how it changed the dynamics of his other relationships going forward.

“At that point, Kody and I were really, really struggling. So that didn’t help,” she said. “It broke my heart. It was one of my first heartbreak moments at that point. I was just sitting on the edge of my bed watching him get ready to go out with her before they got married. He’s like, ‘ I don’t know what’s wrong with me.’ And I said, ‘Oh, you’re in love with her.'”

Christine, who is now married to David Woolley, said of Kody: “He looked at me, he said, ‘I’m, I’m in love with her.’ And then he got very dizzy… It hurt. It hurts a lot. It’s so bad because at that moment you realize that everything is going to change now.”

Then Kody later told the host, “When I met Robyn, it was, you know, like the first time I was ever in love. So that changed the dynamic, I think. And it’s nobody’s fault.”

“It was a call for us to put more effort into other relationships, in my opinion. But it became a grind,” he added. “It was a constant, constant effort to improve your love and prove yourself or like, in a way, dance all the time. And for a few years it was good because the dance worked really well. And what I’m talking about is these struggles in a relationship when we don’t have the basis of passionate love.”

(L-R) Robyn Brown, Meri Brown, Kody Brown, Christine Brown and Janelle Brown pose for a picture at the grand opening of Mike Tyson’s one-man show ‘Mike Tyson: Undisputed Truth – Live on Stage’ on April 14, 2012.

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Meri, on the other hand, believes that Kody has a “soul connection” with Robyn. However, she believes that this relationship should not have been his priority before the whole family.

“I know he’s happy with her and I know they have that soul connection. He talks about it often,” Meri said. “I’m glad he has that with her. I think everybody should have that. I think it’s very unfortunate that the rest of the family had to go by the wayside to get that. I think he, in his life, had the capacity to love and take care of more of us, right? Like, we have a big family. I think he has the capacity and for whatever reason, he doesn’t.”

Agreeing that Robyn is Kody’s “soulmate,” Christine concluded, “I think he married her, I saw what a real marriage could be like. I saw him with my soulmate. I saw, ‘Oh, I guess he he has it in him to help him. I guess he has it in him – just not with me.;”

“I just think maybe her relationship with Kody was so different from the beginning,” Janelle said. “Maybe it was difficult for him because he really felt like he was getting further and further away from wanting to be a plural husband.”

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