A woman vents her frustration at her fiance’s expectation that she do most of the housework because she works from home.
In a recent Reddit post, “Am I Overreacting?”, a woman detailed a situation that left her feeling “overwhelmed” and made her rethink her household responsibilities.
In her post, the woman described her and her fiance’s daily routines, including getting their son ready for school.
Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE’s free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.
A man has sparked controversy after he said he cleaned out a medicine cabinet while a woman was at work and then sent her a video
“My fiance and I both work full time, but I work from home while he commutes 30-45 minutes one way,” she began, before adding that “he usually wakes up around 5:45am” to took a shower and made breakfast, before leaving around 7:00 a.m. each day.
She continued, “I wake up a little later, around 6:00 a.m., and use that time to drink coffee and read the news before waking our son at 6:30 a.m. After that, I make him breakfast, pack his lunch, and help him to get ready for school.
The woman noted that after putting their son on the bus, he doesn’t start work until 8:30, so he uses that hour to “walk our dog, take a shower and get ready for his day.”
She further explained that she also uses her “lunch break to pick up our son from the bus stop, help him get settled and make sure he starts his homework.”
In addition, she revealed that she handles “all the daily household chores,” including hand washing dishes, laundry, and “all major cleaning, including deep cleaning the kitchen and bathroom.”
The husband ignited a ‘big fight’ after the introduction of the rule ‘You cook, you clean’
Things came to a head when a woman was sick with pneumonia for a week and couldn’t keep up with her usual schedule, then discovered her fiance had dropped the ball and left a big mess for her to clean up when she died feeling better.
“When I recovered, I felt overwhelmed by a pile of dishes and laundry. My fiance was taking care of me and our son during that time, but he couldn’t handle the normal chores that I do,” she explained. “That led to a conversation where I asked him if he could start helping around the house in general. I explained to him that I am the only one who cleans and does the laundry every day and that we would have more time on the weekends to relax if he helped a little during the week.”
The woman said that her fiance’s response was not what she had hoped for, as she recounted, he told her: “No, if you would get up when I do and manage your time better, you could do these things. You work from home and there’s no reason you can’t do them because you’re home all day.”
He also claimed that she “doesn’t help with the bigger projects,” and told her that he “doesn’t feel like he should be helping with the smaller ones.”
“I told him that mowing the lawn every other week is very different from everyday chores, but he didn’t give up,” the woman added.
Wife no longer cooks dinner for husband after he refused to wash the dishes: ‘He can take care of his own’
“Am I wrong to think that just because I work from home doesn’t mean I should be responsible for almost all household chores?” she asked in her post.
Many Redditors were on the woman’s side that housework should be shared between the couple.
“You wake up 15 minutes later than him. Maybe suggest he wakes up 15 minutes earlier to contribute too if that minuscule amount of time is so valuable in his opinion,” one person wrote, before adding, “stop doing things for him if he doesn’t appreciate them. And start waking up at 5:45 to make your child breakfast and pack a lunch. That way he can see you doing it.”
“I personally wouldn’t marry this man,” chimed in another user. “I would also stop doing anything for him. He can do laundry, pack lunch and prepare dinner by himself. You work full time too!”
Woman says she asked partner to help with housework instead of ‘playing on couch all day’: ‘He got angry’
A third commenter offered the idea of swapping chores so that a woman’s fiance appreciates what she does during the day.
“Offer a replacement. ‘Okay dear, for the next two weeks I’ll be cleaning the lawn and you can do the housework. They’re both the same, you said it yourself, so that’s fair, right?’ ” suggested a third person.
Categories: Trends
Source: HIS Education