Husband Says He Left Family Behind on European Vacation Because His Mother-in-Law Used His Toothpaste

A man who stormed out on a family holiday after accusing his mother-in-law of invading his family’s privacy is facing a massive backlash.

In a post on Reddit’s popular “AITA” [Am I The A——?] subreddit shared on Thursday, August 8, a 38-year-old man wrote that he and his wife, 35, had planned to go on vacation to Venice, Italy with their five-year-old daughter. “Venice has always been my wife’s idea of ​​a romantic city, so it was her dream to go there,” he wrote.

However, his wife’s mother soon found out about the trip and said that “it was her dream to come too”, so she was also invited to join. “My wife was very supportive of this idea, but I was more reluctant,” he said.

To the user’s “horror”, his wife booked only one room for a group of four with two double beds, which caused a series of conflicts.

“Couldn’t you have booked a separate room for your MIL instead of abandoning your wife and child?” was one answer.

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The Redditer claimed that due to the arrangement of the room, his mother-in-law was “constantly in my space” as she shared his wife’s “expensive” products, such as face wash, shampoo and lotion, and sat on their bed.

“I find it very unhygienic and I don’t like that she was sitting on the bed shared by me and my wife, because I am a very private person,” the user wrote. “She also rummaged through our trunk looking for a hair band, and it pissed me off that she did that without asking me. I don’t like the thought of her going through our things when we’re gone, so I locked her up.”

The moment the user called “the final straw” was when he realized his mother-in-law had been using his and his wife’s toothpaste, which he claimed made him feel “sick”.

“I don’t like the idea of ​​him putting his toothbrush near (or even on) the toothpaste dispenser…” he continued. ” I asked [my] MIL if the only reason she came was to take me and my wife off, because she didn’t pay any of the expenses (hotel, facilities, food), only her plane tickets. I said that I had politely asked her several times to stop using my wife’s things, especially because I was sharing them with her and it was very inappropriate.”

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According to the user, his mother-in-law told his wife about the incident, and she in turn screamed at him. At the time, he noted, he was “very angry” because he had paid for the trip “with HIS OWN MONEY” and now it was “ruined”.

“I changed the date of my plane ticket and went straight home. My wife called me several times after that, yelling at me and saying that our daughter is upset,” he concluded the post, noting that his wife had her own bank card and could have paid on her own or returned home or staying in Italy. He also added that he ignored his wife’s calls “to take some time for my own mental health.”

“I feel bad that our daughter was caught in that situation, but it really wasn’t acceptable what my MIL did and I had to set some boundaries before it got any worse,” he finished.

The “AITA” community immediately declared that this user was indeed an “a——“, claiming that he was unclear about what he wanted from both his mother-in-law and his wife, and that he had unrealistic expectations of cleanliness.

“Wow,” wrote one commenter in response, “Your wife booked the wrong hotel room so your solution is to abandon her on her dream vacation, forcing her to take care of your dependent kindergarten child alone? Couldn’t you have booked a separate room for your MIL instead of leaving your wife and child?”

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“Some of the things OP is upset about are just wild,” stated one response.

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Another said some of the husband’s complaints were “just wild,”

“Sharing toothpaste makes him feel good? And MIL sitting on the bed is bad because it’s unhygienic? Why [he] don’t even care that MIL shares the wife’s face wash, shampoo, etc.”

Another user responded to the post claiming that the husband’s communication skills are not desirable and that ignoring his wife’s phone calls is harming their relationship, not saving his mental health.

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“You are actively damaging your marriage by continuing to ignore her calls. All this happened because you couldn’t communicate like an adult (how hard is it to say ‘let’s go buy another toothpaste so you don’t have to use ours’ for example?) and now you’re doing the opposite of controlling harm by deliberately avoiding it and claiming it’s for your mental health.” the commentator wrote.

After the post went viral on Reddit, receiving more than 650 replies and more than 800 upvotes, the original poster wrote back to his critics, thanking them for their advice and noting that he “realized my mistakes.”

“I will write a sincere apology tonight and call my wife first thing in the morning. Thank you again,” he finished. – I love her more than anything and I want to make amends.

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